To ask for an invite to the party??

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So my DD is 5, in reception at school. Her best friend is turning 5 in a couple of weeks. My DD keeps mentioning to me that she is going to best friend’s birthday party, but we haven’t been sent an invite. I feel so embarrassed even asking but should I send a message to her mum asking if my DD is invited to the party? I don’t even know if there is a party because this is all second hand information from a 5 year old!! On one hand, I don’t want my DD to miss out on her best friend’s party because the invite has been lost somewhere, on the other, maybe there is no party or she’s not invited which will be embarrassing for me to ask and her mum to have to tell me she’s not invited!
What do I do??

Dear lord there's a lot of preciousness on this thread - I see zero issue with asking about invites. Sometimes party places are limited, children's friendships change rapidly, and small kids often get confused and/or make things up. Not everyone can go to everything, having clarity is better than not.

Yes, I'm cringing for you, @Dacadactyl , especially at the super casual way you related that shameful little tale. Awful.

Just ask.. but make it clear no expectation or offended taken if not… I wouldn’t mind if someone asked me! Xx

Oh no, someone on mumsnet is cringing for me!🙄

We will have to agree to disagree.

Yes defo ask.. its bound to be a mistake.
I had to be brave this week and ask a mum if their dc is coming to my dc party as they haven't rsvp'd and its nearly d day..
Turns out they do want to come and the invite had been mislaid and i am so glad i opened up the communication as we had a lovely exchange instead of wondering what was going on. I bet they're wondering why you haven't rsvp'd

There's absolutely nothing wrong with checking. Checking is only the same as angling for an invite in a totally different universe.

Just say "Hi Tina, your kind DD has apparently invited mine several times to her birthday party. As no invite has been received, I'm assuming some over-active imaginations on the part of the girls but do let me know if I'm missing a trick."

@Goldbar I think that's a really good message.