PETTY Is this strange ex behaviour?

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Split a couple of months ago after three years. He became really disinterested and I knew we didn't have a future so no major drama. Both in our mid/late 30s.

I've been using Instagram more in the last six months - tracking some progress against goals and I really enjoy capturing various trips and experiences for myself (e.g. I had my first solo holiday - didn't say this on social media but I was well proud of myself for finally doing it so I love flicking through the content)

I post a story or two most days, some days there's nothing. I noticed last night that ex hadn't looked at a story and realised he'd been looking at pretty much everything else.

We've not spoken since the split and didn't plan on staying friends. I know he's just being nosy but is this a little strange? Wouldn't you just ignore for a few months at least?

Definitely petty!

Does Instagram tell you when someone has looked at your photos?

You'll go crazy if you read anything into who is looking or not looking at your stories. No. It's not petty to read some but not others.

Don't give him any more headspace. Focus on doing your thing.

It tells you if you post a story, yes. If someone "likes" it, it pulls up a list of everyone who's seen it. Ex is at the top usually because we used to engage a lot, that's why I noticed.

Definitely petty!
No it's not petty. I don't think you understand it's meaning.

Some people look at their Exs sm, others don't. If you don't like him looking then block him.

Block him. He’ll know that YOU know he’s been stalking you.

In what way is it petty? If you follow each other then it's not so strange that he sees what you post...

Surely that's not stalking.

You're noticing when particular people aren't looking at your stories on social media and then posting about it on another social media site. I don't think it's your ex who you need to worry about, concentrate on your own behaviours.

I don't see anything odd in viewing a story that someone has posted for all to see. Unfriend/block if it bothers you but don't waste time worrying about it.

Why do you care? Just block him

I think it's hard to move on if you're still engaged in each other's lives like that.

Either take him off your Instagram or post stories to close friends only.

It's really not worth a second thought.

But when you go on Instagram, it just gives you a row of everyone's Stories across the top. If you play one story, it immediately just plays the next story. The fact that your ex has seen all your stories literally just means he's been scrolling through his story feed. It doesn't mean he's been actively looking for your stories. They just appear automatically one after the other. I just glanced at a Story my brother posted and the next one that came up was from an old colleague and the next one was from my hairdresser. I didn't seek out their content but obviously it will show as having been 'seen' by me.

I'm not actually sure what your problem is. You noticed that your ex HADN'T looked at one of your Stories, but then you seem to be complaining that he HAD looked at the others? What's the issue here? Are you annoyed that he's seen our previous stories, or annoyed that he hasn't seen the most recent story?

Either way, you're massively over-thinking this. Grow up ffs.

It's equally likely it was accidental, stories just play to the next person. It wouldn't look any different if he specifically went onto your profile to look at your story vs it autoplayed after watching some from his homepage and he immediately skipped on.

Either way it doesn't matter, if you don't want him to see it then block him or hide your stories from him.

No I don't think it's strange that an amicable recent ex was watching your story if you've remained friends. He might just wish you well and consider you a friend. (If you're no longer mutuals on IG and he is still watching your story, well, same applies but you've busted him being nosy, still nbd though). If he's at the top of your list it means instagram thinks you're interested in him.

I'm not sure what you think is petty? Him watching your stories, him not watching that specific story, or you for noticing this.

Me noticing and commenting on it!

I was going to say the same as @ManateeFair

I will watch something then it will just keep skipping in to the next, so it would seem like I watch things from my hairdresser, my nephew, the local community centre etc burin reality I haven't really properly engaged.

The fact you've noticed him not watching your content I think proves that you've been looking out for him watching your stuff.