My sister began dating a guy...3 years ago, and my parents and I haven't met him yet. She lives about 8 hours from us and comes home about 3-4x/year. We know she spends holidays with his family if she doesn't come home, which is fine, but he's never come with her for a visit to see us. I think a big part of it is that my dad thinks the guy is a golddigger and doesn't approve of him. But my dad would never say that to the guy.
There are other major red flags, in my opinion. He still lives at home...he's in his late 20s, didn't go to college (which is not necessarily a dealbreaker), and quit his job at the beginning of the year to focus on his band and write a book. She, on the other hand, has a degree and is in a corporate position. She also is a new homeowner.
She broke up with him earlier this month, but then they got back together. She broke up with him because she wanted someone she could rely on if she was ever unable to work and support a family. She told both my mom and me that she's not sure of her decision to get back together with him and that they really don't have much in common. All I said was that she always can change her mind...I told her to please remember that.
But I really wanted to tell her that it is highly unlikely he will change and that she shouldn't settle. But I didn't.
So, anyone ever not meet their siblings' partner for years when you had a good relationship with said sibling?