Landed my dream job and I hate it

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Corporate role lovely manager and team are nice people. However very isolating no one goes into the office. It’s NHS so all the processes are very slow and my days are long.

I know I need to give it more time but can’t help feel that it’s just the NHS that is the issue and if I worked for a fun vibrant company it wouldn’t be all doom and gloom.

I prayed for this job and now I’ve got it I’m desperate to leave already. What is
wrong with me

Nothing is wrong with you. Sometimes the grass isn’t always greener on the other side of the fence. But it takes us actually being on that other side to realise it.
Give it a defined period before making any decisions to leave if you can. Say 6 months? Just in case it newbie nerves/self sabotage or you just need time to meet more staff. But if the job causes too much anxiety/stress/depression then it’s also fine to hand in your resignation. Either way, look for other positions as having an exit plan might help you feel less trapped.
Sometimes wonderful on paper doesn’t translate to fabulous to work for.

There’s nothing wrong with you, some jobs just aren’t what they’re cracked up to be and don’t work out. I’d start looking for something else.

What a disappointment. Can you go full steam ahead and make the changes you want in this job? It’d give you focus and you’ll know you’ve tried. Then move on if it doesn’t work out. Do the other people seem to like it, or do they all look beaten?

How long have you worked there?

It isn't you. The NHS is pretty much at the worst I've seen right now in 18 years. Although some hospitals are worse than others, the sense of cameraderie and goodwill have pretty much gone. Lots of experienced old guard have gone and around 85% of the new style managers are battlefield appointments who don't have much clue what they're doing and get very little guidance. Plus departments like Comms and EDI keep coming up with bonkers initiatives that won't make any difference to patient care whatsoever.

I don't know what to suggest beyond asking if there are working groups you could get involved in maybe to help you make friends? Other than that, put a time limit on it of maybe 6 to 9 months and don't stop looking for another job.

Worked for a private company, permanent job apparently, horrible, useless training entitled people speaking down to you. Never cried on leaving 8 weeks later.

Worked temporarily for a gov line, people were very grateful even if the call got off to a bad start, when you could finally log on to the system very frustrating even though the job would only last 9 weeks or so. Tears within a week of it going wrong.

aargh!

How long have you worked there? I’d say that any change takes time and you’d maybe feel differently in a few months?

the public sector is a whole different kettle of fish to private organisations and wfh is very isolating but there are benefits too.

id give yourself a 4-6 month deadline and try your best until then and make a decision

The same has happened to me OP. I'm 3 weeks in. I don't work for the NHS though.

It's horrible

If you’ve got a nice manager and colleagues and it’s for a worthwhile organisation like the nhs I say give it more time. Having just left a dream job with a terrible manager don’t under estimate how great that is. You can now build your perfect job.

Wfh sucks - it is lonely and isolating 😢.

Is there any opportunity to go into an office? Or any other changes you can make that would improve things?

I started my dream job last year and it was very quickly the worst job I've ever had. Working from home is awful. If I'm honest my mental health hasn't recovered and I'm starting to think that it never will.

Get out before you end up really really miserable.

Sometimes what you thought something would be doesn't translate to reality. It isn't you.

Funnily enough my job is WFH too. I'm going into the office next week to see if it helps. I won't have direct colleagues there but I will have people all around me from distant departments.

Seems to be a theme here 😭

Lots of things turn out not to be all they’re cracked up to be. Not your fault.

That’s rubbish but these things happen, stay for 6 months to gain the experience and then move along to another job.

If you know you're really miserable I don't advise sticking it out for 6 months as suggested here. Look after your wellbeing.

It might be the feeling of isolation that makes you feel that way. I WFH and I don't want to go to the office however I can't help feeling isolated and lonely at home.

I think your probably right, I’m still training and there’s not much for me to do sometimes. Everyone is busy in back to back meetings all day. It’s tough!

I'm at exactly that stage. Just a few weeks in the door so not up to speed with a lot of things, trying to eke out my day with small tasks, and watching tv in the background.

It's not me. I love being busy. Sitting at home absolutely demotivates me, but it's better for our family life for me to have that balance. Meanwhile I'll try not to let my mental health collapse into a big black hole, and hope that when I get busier things will be better.

Oh training is shit - I think you’ll be better once you’re in the swing. Do you have regular catch-ups scheduled?