My husband works for the same company as me. I've been there and worked my socks off to get up to a department manager over 14 years (a couple of maternity leaves and a secondment elsewhere). He joined the company 6 years ago after uni and is now a manager in a different department. Earns almost £10k more than me a year and has almost had it all handed to him on a plate.
My main issue lies with the disparity between departments in the company as one manager shouldn't earn £10k more than the other with equal responsibility.
My other issue is that I want to better myself, I want a degree or an apprenticeship so that I can become upper management or something different... Both require a lot of work outside of working hours to achieve.
We have a 10 year old and 3 year old between us and I do the washing, cleaning, cooking etc. I work 4 days (rather than 5) a week to accommodate childcare for the youngest whilst doing these things too (hardly a day off). Any career development would massively depend on him pulling more weight with housework.
Should I just accept that something has to give and go along In my ill-paying role...we earn enough between us to be comfortable with current childcare arrangements but can't afford cover if I went back full time.
I feel like I have sacrificed my job progression for children... And he has just sailed in and got possibly more than he's worked for because his manager recognises his potential.
I think I know the answer but tonight I came home to cry. He was out watching a football match for the second time this week and know he will sleep when he gets in. I'm cleaning and tidying. Im close to a breakdown but he's incredibly sensitive (on antidepression meds etc) and I have no one to rant to 😞