To get angry with DH for eating DD’s food BEFORE the meal has finished??!

[LadyofLaundry88]

2yo DD going through fussy eating phase and is rejecting a lot. This evening baked potato with tuna was a battle but often if we give her fruit she’ll end up coming back to the main course. THAT IS IF MY DH HASN’T ALREADY EATEN IT. I was helping older DC and he was helping 2yo and just kept taking mouthfuls. I repeatedly asked him to stop to give her a chance, then got up to get some yoghurt for them to turn around and find him polishing off her whole plate. I’m very annoyed—AIBU?

That’s very very annoying! Especially if you’re the one who’s cooked it for her! Why doesn’t he make himself some food if he’s that hungry?

Exactly the sort of thing my exh would do.

Woth little kids it’s very common for them to take a while to eat or, as you say, come back to savoury food almost absentmindedly if they’ve had fruit/ healthy pudding alongside.

Kids can be slow eaters. It’s really damaging if he gives them the message (when she’s a bit older) that you have to eat your food quickly or Dad will have scoffed it.

YANBU. That's really shitty behaviour.

I’d be furious.

Next time he’s eating dinner, start helping yourself to his food and see how he likes it.

Is he usually there at mealtime? He sounds very selfish tbh

That's disgusting, why do men do shit like this?

It’s never women who do shit like this, is it.

Poor DD.

Blimey, he’s starting the indoctrination of prioritising mens’ needs REALLY young. YANBU OP.

My dh used to do this. I think it was done to him growing up too as he eats with an arm wrapped around his plate as habit.
I had some words and he has now stopped.
I don't want my children protecting their own plates with their arms!!

But seriously, I would just mention it as really unfair as she is 2 and won't be able to keep up with everyone else and also won't be able to fix herself something else later. I do think men are not as in tune sometimes.

Is he always such a selfish greedy pig?

I'd look on it another way-does it help her eat if she's being a bit fussy? Because seeing daddy eating it, may help her want to eat it.

I remember when one of mine was small. She didn't like what was on my plate, but wanted what I was eating. So she kept asking for everything on my fork, then turning away when I offered it... but if I offered her her food, she refused that too. Eventually I put her food onto my plate and pretended I was eating it, then she ate the lot.

It doesn’t help her eat if he’s polishing it off before the poor thing has even had a proper chance to eat it herself.

FFS. I would have a go on my DH if he did this.

He sounds like a greedy pig, he could have waited to see if the child would eat the food without him greedily gobbling it all up. Tell him to quit and leave their food alone or else he can eat elsewhere if he cannot be trusted to steal the child's food, shocking that he can just eat it and not even think they will be hungry once his greedy belly is filled. Tell him to feck off from the table as he is gross. Next he will be at their piggy bank !! You must have the patience of a saint.

Surely he's not eating it because he's hungry/actually wants the food, but to avoid waste when she says she's finished?

Personally I wouldn't be offering fruit/yogurt if she says she's had sufficient...

Don't let him eat at the table -send him to the trough.

I think finding sharing a room with your kids weird is the weird thing. But mumsnet repeatedly shows us just how different we all are. Some people really aren't comfortable with physical affection and closeness between parents and kids after a certain point. I'm more of the opinion that the weirdest bit had to be when they were literally inside of me.