HELP!

[Tinker31]

Hi all, it's been a while since I've posted anything on here but I'm at my wits end. I have two teenage children now and on the whole they're great kids.

But please someone tell me ,AIBU to expect a little help from time to time? I work full time and so does my husband. My one child does a few hours of an evening and I said that is fine while she figures out what she wants to do,college was not for her. But I have had conversations and offered help, I am always there but she stops in bed past 12 pm most days and I feel like all I do is nag for help.

My DS goes to school and tries to help but then has the attitude well why should I if she doesn't help. I feel like I'm constantly repeating myself and even had a row before! Am I just too soft!?!

I dont think the staying in bed past 12 is an issue as such, it's the lack of help. They need boundaries, chores, know what's expected of them. It doesn't need to be a daily battle, they just need to know you mean it.

Thank you , I have tried to talk to them and say how I feel and it falls on deaf ears, the no response from her as well doesn't help. It's almost like I'm asking so much all the time. I give a lot but feel I get nothing back. It'd tiring now ,and just don't know how to handle this

My one child does a few hours of an evening and I said that is fine while she figures out what she wants to do,college was not for her

If this teen is 17 and does a few hours every/most evenings I'd say you're on to a winner! Mine did that in a week if I was lucky!.
How old is the younger one?

The eldest who does a few hours of an evening is nearly 19, and my youngest is 15, I always praised her for getting a job, but she tried college but didn't go, fare enough she doesn't know what she wants to do but almost like she doesn't want to look or try. I've said I will help but nope she doesn't want to know. I feel lost myself at the moment and really don't want an argument with her