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ChristmasCrumpet · 19/09/2023 20:21

It was my 40th last year. My parents offered to get me a set of fab kitchen pans (a big set) for £1500. The month before my birthday, I found them virtually unused on eBay for £300...so I snapped them up.

Parents then said, what did I want instead. I looked at some new garden furniture, but on the basis we are hoping to move in the next 12mths, I didn't want to choose something now that wouldn't fit our "future" garden.

My DM has a habit of getting me nothing for my birthdays, but putting a home made voucher stating I have, say, £150 to spend on whatever I like and I should buy whatever and let her know. It never feels right, because I don't really want to source and buy my own present, then ask for the reimbursement, so I never get round to doing so, and end up getting nothing. My mother sees this, yet does the same every year.

I'm determined not to let this happen to my 40th present, but literally can't think of what to get. I know £1500 sounds a lot, but when you weigh it up with the ten years previous of "vouchers" she's issued and I've never got anything, it's not so much spread over a decade.

What would you choose for £1500 please? My taste in bags tends to run higher in value than this, and I don't really want a contribution towards a purchase, I want to tell her the item, and she can purchase it, so it actually feels like a present. Yet I can't think of anything other than a handbag. I'd like one big purchase, so it feels like a memento of a landmark birthday. I did wonder about luggage, although the set I've got is perfectly good, I'm literally stuck for ideas.

I appreciate this is a first world problem by the way.

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Beachbodyready · 19/09/2023 20:30

An original work of art. For that money you might still be able to get a My Dog Sighs ‘can man’ although his prices have been rising steadily so they may now be slightly above budget. Alternatively Laura Rich creates beautiful abstract landscapes.

44PumpLane · 19/09/2023 20:30

How about a mini break/spa break to celebrate your birthday belatedly. Then you don't have to think of a "thing".

A nice watch, an item of jewelry, a custom designed and made pair of boots.

cruffinsmuffin · 19/09/2023 20:36

A hotel stay with dinner in a fabulous hotel? A meal at the fat duck or similar? A mini break on the Eurostar?

UnsolicitedOpinions · 19/09/2023 20:36

3 x £500 Lego sets - easy!

Blueuggboots · 19/09/2023 20:36

I'd buy jewellery.

Netaporter · 19/09/2023 20:40

@ChristmasCrumpet How about a Van Cleef & Arpels Sweet Alhambra necklace or Bracelet? (All under £1500)

Or a lovely Hermes Bangle?

Or a night at the new Raffles London Hotel at the Old War Rooms?

Or as other posters have suggested, a piece of art/First edition/Vintage Cinema poster?

bluebirdsongs · 19/09/2023 20:48

Hermes throw

ChristmasCrumpet · 19/09/2023 20:54

Art would be a good idea, thank you, I don't know where to start with that, so would be grateful any pointers of where to look, and what is likely to appreciate.

Hermes, I have a few bangles, and birkins are out of my price league by a good mile, as we are buying a house soon.

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ChristmasCrumpet · 19/09/2023 20:55

Oh, and I'd love a stay away, but we have small twins, and my parents won't have them overnight, (or even for the afternoon, but that's another thread lol) so we can't take any kind of trip in the next future.

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Netaporter · 19/09/2023 21:13

@ChristmasCrumpet art is quite subjective Really. I collect modern art but I only buy what like much of which has appreciated but more by luck than judgement!

ChristmasCrumpet · 19/09/2023 21:28

@Netaporter I think art is a great idea though, so I'm going to bow out of this thread and start another specifically asking for advice with purchasing art work and see what people suggest.

Thank you for your help x

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tothelefttotheleft · 19/09/2023 21:59

I would do jewellery, art or holiday.

I would definitely mark it in some way.

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