to consider getting tubes cut/tied at 26?

[tubetied]

i’m due to have my 3rd csection next year. i feel like 3 is my limit (mostly because 3+ c-sections is more unsafe so i wouldn’t want to risk it). i never found a contraception that worked well for me as implant, pill, etc have all given me really low moods. i’m considering asking to have my tubes tied/cut during my last section but i’m worried i regret it. has anyone had this procedure done and can tell me how you feel about it please?

Failure rate of sterilisation is higher when done during a section so I'd wait and ask for a referral if you still want to do it in 6m time. Would your partner have a vasectomy?

I was offered it at after 2 and didn’t but have you looked into the long term implications for your body? I’m not sure what they are.

If you’re worried you’ll regret it, don’t do it

I want it doing but they won't let me as I only have one child and I might "change my mind" and I'm 33. My child is 15, if I wanted more I'd have had them already.

My male friend had a vasectomy at 25 no questions asked, it's ridiculous.

i did it during a section at 42.
Strangely I did regret it for a while, but that was more a psychological thing of no longer having an option, I believe. As actually I don’t think I wanted more kids!
Now I’m glad as I almost certainly would’ve ended up pregnant again (yes even at that age- I have hyperfertility and would’ve ended up with miscarriages).
I think if you are worried you may regret it then absolutely do NOT do it.
Get your partner to have a vasectomy instead. Much easier.

If you’re worried you’ll regret it then you’re not mentally ready to have it done. Unless you are “100% I want it done, no hesitation no regrets” I’d say go for it.

Also don’t want to be that person but you are still so young maybe give yourself a couple of years to think about it.

thanks all - i would love for my partner to have a vasectomy but he doesn’t want to as i don’t think he’s as done with 3 as i am

My ex sister in law had her tubes tied as she had 2 appalling pregnancies and labours. After she divorced my brother and remarried she asked about a reversal as she wanted kids with the new man. She had no more children. The moral is this; you need to be 100% sure that no matter what happens you are happy with the children you have. Nothing, not divorce, or god forbid having a child die, would make you want more. [ I mention the death of a child as a chap I know brought that up before he had the snip.He told his wife that no matter what , they needed to consider the worst case scenario]

I was sterilised after my 3rd csection - this was straight after the csection was performed. I would honestly give your self time to heal from the csection and be clear minded! I lost one off my children she passed away age 2 and it broke me. I met someone new who didn't have kids and he changed my life around I then wanted a child with him. Seen several consultants who told me reversal wasn't possible and ended up going through IVF and not far off having this baby but had multiple problems throughout the pregnancy which I never had with the others. You never know what's around the corner in your life 💔 also since being sterilised I suffered with really heavy periods although UK doctors don't agree that sterilisation causes this other world wide doctors have run studies which have proven this. Please be 100% sure before you agree to anything.

I got sterilised during my c section with my twins. I was sure, twins were pregnancy number 5, and I has suffered the loss of my son in pregnancy number 4. I knew it was the right decision for me, I was 40 and would have 5 children and I was content with my twins being my last children, I also did not want to risk another loss ever.

I was strangely sad for a few months following the c section and sterilisation. I think I was just feeling melancholy about things and that this would be the last time I would be experiencing babies etc. The twins are almost 2 now and I am so so pleased I was sterilised!

Given how sure I was about it and then found myself being sad about after it was done, I think you need to be really very sure that it’s what you want.

I did it after second emergency C section, at the same time. Planned, doctors approved as I'd had such difficult pregnancies. Vaguely wanted more children but knew it wasn't a good idea, nice not to have to deal with contraception.

Unless he's going to go off and have a baby with someone else, surely you having your tubes tied is going to have the same impact as him getting a vasectomy.

By the sounds of things neither of you are ready to make that choice yet.