to have asked next door not to let kids jump over fence (long)

[cybermonkey]

So, when we moved in the kids nextdoor would jump over the low fence to retrieve the ball, i mentioned this to the parents after a year, a little while ago i was stunned to look out of the window and see their dd climbing on the outside fence (this is in no way connected to their property) - apparently to look. Now i mentioned this and felt that maybe i was nagging too much as they said they were expecting me to mention it. Meaning they already knew. Now the thing is i am not a very confrontaional person and am now worried that i have caused bad feeling, but i did not say anything just that she looked like she was climbing fence. This has not stopped me worring ever since and i know i am in the right, maybe i just need therapy to not let stuff get to me.

Are they doing any damage to the fence or your garden?

do you want her NOT to climb your fence?
if the answer is YES then
END OF STORY

You need therapy 'cos the kid next door climbed on a fence?

Yeah...... well, um...

Is it just that you don't want her climbing all over your property? Or are you genuinely scared for her safety...?

So they climbed over the adjoining fence into your garden and then started climbing a totally different fence belonging to you but not connected to their garden?

tbh it wouldn't bother me them jumping over the fence to get the ball, unless the fence was geting damaged in some way? If it was, I'd ask the children themselves to use the gate. Do you mean she was climbing the fence to look in at your house? My neighbours dd does this and it does bug me tbh, I asked her to stop climbing the fence too, pretending that the fence would fall down I avoided talking to her parents about it though, as I'm even less confrontational than you

The fence is damaged, but no one saw it happen.
SW you are right.

I'm always blinking right

In my book there is no reason for a child (or adult) to be climbing over MY fence into MY garden.

If their ball comes over and I don't see it and return it - then they should ring the door bell and ask for it back - or if I am out bleeding well wait for me to return...

There endeth the Heifer lesson.

We did have this happen to us before we had DD (and I was even less child friendly ) we couldn't work out why the apple tree branches that DH had taken months to train to grow across the fence were damaged and broken - that was until we saw the boy next door climb over exactly at that spot!..

We asked his mum politely to get him to stop - she was surprised he had done it but tbh he still did it every so often but further down the fence.....

kids, who would live next door to them!

You coulds always put some lightweight trellis at the top of the fence.It woildn't be strong enought to bear weight & would stop her looking at your house.