Pregnant and want to leave partner

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I am 7 months pregnant and want to leave my partner.

We live separately but he wants us to buy a home together.

I am not really happy for the following reasons:

He will constantly moan about not getting any TLC and when I was on antibiotics for a UTI he was asking for oral sex!

I have had a stressful pregnancy, I have had vaginal bleeding, had a low lying placenta ( was told by Dr not to have sex or lift heavy objects ).

I have also had two blood tests for Gestational Diabetes as glucose was found in my urine.

He used to give me lifts for shopping but I stopped asking him as he would just start putting his own things in my trolley and expect me to pay.

I only work part time and have to budget where he works full time.

I get gift vouchers at work for competitions and when I asked him to go get me a few bits he told me" I will put a few things in as its free"

I just find him so selfish.

He will come to mine and eat all my food, drink all my juice.

He expects to move in with me when the baby is born.
I know he will expect to move in and not even offer to contribute financially.
It will be me looking after the baby while he works and lives of me.

I am not prepared to do that.

The final straw came when on Saturday I asked him to do change the curtains for me and move my heavy work PC.

He said he would do it.
But then on Sunday he went to a festival with his brother knowing I needed the curtains up.

I find this so selfish.

He complains about not seeing his brother who he just went on holiday with.

I just feel I cant even rely on him for anything.

He promised me he would take me shopping for maternity stuff, not happened.

I have taken him on numerous holidays, used to pay for a lot of things and borrowed him thousands in the past and feel so unappreciated.

Am I right to end to end relationship and feel the way I do?

He sounds like a selfish knob and you'd be doing all the parenting yourself if he moved in so best tell him it's over, get a claim in for maintenance asap (don't know if you can apply prior to the birth), and register the birth alone. If he wants PR he can do the legwork to get DNA test etc.

Good luck.

That is exactly how I feel.
I have told him I will put in a claim for child maintenance once the baby is born.

I agrée with the first pp. He’s contributing nothing, and only wants to take from you, both in terms of your money and your time.

“Free”, my arse.

I would not want to be with someone like this. You’re going to find him a massive drag and drain just when you have a new baby and have the least time and energy for it.

As pp said, tell him it’s over - not only is he not living with you but you’re no longer in a relationship. So it’s totally clear.

Claim CMS, let him visit the baby during the day st agreed times whilst he/ she is a baby - and make him actually help in a useful way with the baby whilst he’s there - and then when baby is a few years old sort out contact times at his place (if he’s still in the picture).

Hes a selfish prick. Also having a baby and moving in together shouldn't really be about I paid for this and you paid for that, but that's another story. He's a selfish prick.

He’s a fucking leech. Of course you should feel the way you do! What a pathetic, shameless excuse of a man. Is he in the sort of job where he’s not going to be able to hide his income if (when) you need to claim child maintenance?

YANBU at all, he sounds selfish and useless, it will be less stressful not having him live with you.

Well of course you should leave him. Perhaps least year was a better time to do it though

He really is so selfish and he really gets me down.

He always moans about me not cooking for him which really infuriates me.
Why should I?
He does not help me.

Why have a child with him then? He must have had some redeeming qualities