I don’t know whether to be a bit annoyed?

[tickedoff84]

My boyfriend and I are going travelling for a year, in a matter of days! We are really excited. Because of this, I have recently sold my car and I started to move some stuff from my flat back to my parents house today.

My boyfriend gave me a lift from my flat to my parents, and helped me move my things.
He was going for dinner with friends tonight at around 6, and said he will only be a couple of hours. He said if I stay at my parents, he will pick me up after a couple of hours.

It’s now 10pm and I’ve only just heard from him, saying “sorry still at the restaurant”. It’s an hour away. I don’t have a means of getting home and he said he would, but I’m getting really tired and need to get ready for work tomorrow.
But I’ve had to ask my parents to give me a lift home now instead. He’s not replied since.

I know I shouldn’t rely on someone like that and I usually don’t, but it’s just strange times at the moment due to me selling my car and us getting ready to go travelling. I can’t help but feel annoyed that he’s not respected the time, but I also understand that he’s probably having fun.
It’s a really hard one and I feel a bit ticked off and not sure if I’m being silly?

He's not going to see those friends for a year if he is off travelling with you. He probably lost track of time. Don't over think it.

I think it’s just taken longer than he thought. I wouldn’t get too annoyed by this, unless it’s a regular occurrence that he promises something and then doesn’t do it. I’m a bit of a tyrant too around this stuff and I’m not mad on your behalf.

He’s having fun, he’s not going to see them for a year and you’ll see him everyday! Don’t let it be a big thing, you’re home, you can get your sleep in. Just think of the great times you’ll have when you’re away - I’m jealous!!

I’m glad he’s having fun and I understand completely! I suppose I just wish he hadn’t promised he’d come pick me up if there was a possibility he couldn’t, because now I’ve had to ask my parents and I just feel a bit silly

I think you're being a bit silly. He's not going to see his own friends for a whole year, he's obviously enjoying spending time with them. No way I would have waited til 10pm for him to come and pick me back up, couldn't your parents have give you a lift home ages ago? Doesn't seem like a big deal to me. And if you're going to spend the next year 24/7 in each others company I think you need to ignore the small stuff 🙈

If you understand and are just feeling a bit silly, then that’s fine. I’m sure your parents were happy to help. Just don’t let it be a dampener on your amazing holiday. I’ve certainly got caught up in the moment and stayed longer than I said. Luckily my husband has always been understanding and I do the same for him. Yes, slightly annoying you had to get a lift, but in the grand scheme of things it’s better to have an understanding partner you can laugh about it with later, and will be understanding to you in the future.

@tickedoff84 why would it seem strange to ask your parents to drive you home? Surely they know you've just sold your car.

yep, you could have both predicted it better and arranged for your parents to run you back, but no harm done.

Contrary to the above posters, if I'd committed to give someone a lift home so they could get to work tomorrow, I wouldn't ditch then, and no way would I ditch them without explanation.

Yes he was probably having a nice time with his mates but come on, he probably knew this before going out and could have made alternative at re arrangements.

I think in general women on mumsnet are too blasé about shit treatment