To wake or not to wake DH

[McJordanoftheNot]

(Lighthearted)

I feel like I have been hit by a bus, I've not been feeling great for a couple of days but tonight I'm really nauseous and dizzy with a weird tingly head and burning eyelids. Very odd!

DCs are now asleep but DH has fallen asleep settling DS and there's loads of washing up and tidying to be done. I feel crap enough that DH would have sorted it all, but I feel bad waking him up as he did a race for his hobby this morning which did take it out of him.

Does actual illness trump self inflicted tiredness?

YABU- do the washing up, it's not that hard
YANBU- wake him up

Or leave it til tomorrow?

Just leave it until tomorrow

I vote neither. Leave it until tomorrow and both get some rest.

You all need sleep, go to bed

Leave it.

and if you "can't", then you have your answer - you do it and don't wake DH.

Agree with others. Both have an early night and do the dishes tomorrow

Just leave it, it won't multiply overnight. Sounds like you both need a sleep, hope you feel better soon.

Leave the washing up. Go to bed.

Go to bed, leave it till tomorrow.

When I'm drained up I just gather it up in the sink and tackle it the next morning....you should take some painkillers and get an early night. Hope you feel better soon xx

Just rinse the plates of residue, do your usual before bed routine and go to bed.

If DH is agreeable as it seems from your post, he won't mind doing it tomorrow morning if your still rough.

Hope you feel better soon OP

Leave it tomorrow

If you find that hard, it’s good for you.

Have a good sleep.

I agree with all the others, tomorrow is a new day. Have both a good rest

Sore eyes is one of those weird covid symptoms. Just saying. Feel better soon!

Duh! I can't believe the option of leaving it hadn't occurred to me! OK, I will gather some strength to do the bare minimum to be able to cope with leaving it (gathering it all in the sink and wiping the worktops) and go to bed! Lying down makes the nausea worse but hoping it will be OK once I am asleep!

Go to bed but leave him a note saying you're having an early night as you feel ill and that if he wakes up at a decent hour could he get the washing up done.

Do it tomorrow, then go online and order a dishwasher.

yeah don’t wake him just go to bed yourself! I’m so glad you posted instead of waking him
up! You both deserve a rest and it really can just wait and all you need to say to your DH in the morning is that you weren’t feeling well didn’t want to wake him so you tried to sleep it off ready to tackle in the morning! That being said I hope you sleep well and do feel better tomorrow!

God I wouldn't even think twice about leaving it, it's no big deal whatsoever, it's a bit of washing up

@SchadenfreudeIstMeinMittelname we do actually have a dishwasher but I usually do pots and pans separately, as well as the kids' plastic cutlery/plates/cups. Have I been doing life wrong?

In a weird twist of fate, DH just woke up (he probably woke himself up through his own loud snoring which I could hear from downstairs!). He's having more food and instructed me to leave things and go to bed!👌

Just leave it. DH and I are perfectly well but I still plan on leaving the kitchen until tomorrow.