Dh always asking me what’s wrong

[Treslittlebirds]

He’s done it all weekend, I say I’m fine as I’m literally sat there watching tv with Dd or on my phone, then he says I’m obviously not and gets angry. I’ve just come upstairs to get some space as we were all happily watching a film, eating our dinner on the sofa and he asked again, I was mid fork in my mouth?! Drives me nuts, can’t relax in my own house. Plus today, I was watching a video of directions from the ballet teacher, for Dds new ballet place and he hovered over my shoulder asking what I’m watching 🤷🏻‍♀️

My ex used to do this, constantly asking 'are you ok???' in a tone more suited to having found me crying or injured than sitting normally watching tv or whatever. Drove me crazy. I eventually lost my temper and told him that he was never to ask me that ever again and I would inform him if I wasn't actually ok.

If you’re feeling down then something is wrong isn’t it? But you’re telling him everything is fine.

It’s hard to tell from your posts what you are actually like around him. It’s one thing not to be constantly smiling and jolly and another to be in a mood and short with others, unresponsive, negative, silent, etc.

Being around people who are moody is pretty awful and being gaslit that there is nothing wrong is going to make him feel really powerless. While I agree that shouting at you about it is totally counter productive, it doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t have cause to be frustrated.

I don't blame you OP this would drive me insane and imo is abusive - I haven't had this from a partner but from a very bitchy colleague who had bad intent ..

@NumberTheory I have felt a bit flat the last couple of days and had said to him before that I felt a bit meh/tired but was fine. There was no need to go on and to get angry about it, I wasn’t acting negatively, maybe a bit quieter but can’t I be in my own house