To not go on family holiday now wwyd?

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Was supposed to go on holiday and arrive back at 12 on the night by so I would have been home and in bed by 1:30.

parents in law and brother in law took so long to book the holiday after we’ve been telling them for weeks. The holiday has now gone and we have to go to an airport two hours away. So instead of arriving back at 12 I’m not getting back until 5:30

I have a work event at half 8 so will have to be up at 7 and I’ll be exhausted. I’m new to the team so I didn’t want to miss it.

everyone is being funny with me now because I’ve said I’m not going but I made it clear I had a work event so it no longer works for me. DH thinks it’s silly that I won’t just miss the event.

I can’t socialise all day on a 1hr 30 mins sleep. Also if I do go and miss the event I ’m being forced to use another day AL and I don’t have much left.

That’s assuming there are no delays. I arrived back 4 hours later than expected this week.

Yanbu- I would prioritise work too.

Can the entire holiday be moved back a day?

It'd be a hard no from me flying back overnight.

Can you book a separate scheduled flight and meet them there then you can come back at a time that suits you?

How long are you away for? Could you come back the day before/an earlier flight to the others?

Can you get a cheapy flight back the day before so you’re only missing one day of the holiday? To be honest I would just try and power through one day, get as much sleep as I could on the plane and transfers etc and crash after work. But that might be a good compromise. It seems a shame to miss a whole holiday because of one day

I've often been there where everyone else just decides my time (especially sleep) is theirs and I've no right to complain. You're doing nothing wrong that I can tell, based on what you've said at least.

YANBU. I bet they’re not working the next day.

Why are they being funny with you?

You set your boundaries. They've disregarded them. I would just be very definite that you made it clear what would work for you and the new plan doesn't. And, with respect, even the pleasure of their company isn't going to make up for doing a whole work day on 90 minutes sleep.

If I could power through on a hour and a half I would but I simply can’t do it. It’s only for a week we could change dates but then it means everyone else has to rearrange work too.

If you're arriving back at 5.30 you're not even going to get 1.5 hours sleep by the time you actually get to sleep. You could of course sleep on the journey home but I can never sleep on a plane. So there's no way I'd be up for that

Have you checked if you can book the original holiday/airport using a different web sight/travel agent etc? TBH the original plan didn’t sound great for sleep either.

I couldn't do that either, you will feel and look dreadful. Not a good impression for a work event.

And that's without any delays. Stick to your guns, it's absolutely not viable for you.

Look on Skyscanner for cheap flights to get you home from the holiday venue 1 day before everyone else. Then you can do most of the holiday and still be back for work.

Id go if I could book a flight home on my own the day before.

I'd try and get a flight home the day before. If not possible definitely prioritise your work

I would quite often have to power through after a night shift at and stay up if my DH had to work the next day. Once you get past due Initial tiredness, it's not too bad. I crash at 4pm though 🤦🏻‍♀️