AIBU to think that the AIBU thread seems to bring out the worst in people on mumsnet?

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....and i think as interesting as it is, i might actually never go on this thread again.
In other threads, people are mostly helpful and supportive of other mums, giving some good advice or even try to have a laugh. The other threads seem to bring out the best in people. The support i got here when i was a new mum facing the horrors of those first few weeks really helped me through that period.

But in the AIBU thread over the last few weeks, i have essentially been labelled selfish, thick, a fuckwit, accused of not loving my children enough, not wanting to spend time with them -- i.e. an overall bad parent and bad person with no consideration for others.

And all because I work full time, employ a nanny, own a 4x4. If i admitted that we will probably send the kids to private school (no AIBU thread on that recently), i am sure i will be eternally damned.

So goodbye AIBU thread, it was fun for a while, but all this negativity is not good for one's soul. If i was having a low day, i might actually believe what other people say and that would be tragic.

This is such a sad indictment of how Mumsnet has sold itself to the dogs.

Oh God, was I wrong to find that topic highly amusing then?!

Life's a fucking bitch and then you die. But in between, there's always t'Internet which enables you to cheer yourself up by spoiling someone else's day

Madamez, that's the spirit!

i think rhubarbs right.
but i started a thread in here today and not one person has been rude and I am learning stuff.
yet the other day some one took my thread as an opurtunity to slag my ds off(not a wise move) so I am just going to more carefull with my questions.

Rhubarb- yes i am aware of that but people really were being harsh with their answers, and other posters were saying so too, so it wasn't just me who thought it.

I can take criticism as well as the next person, but sometimes people on here are just twats

I think the AIBU bring out the wprst in MN.

It gives active convos a negative whiny whingey tone.

They attract sheiky mobs of folk all saying the same thing to the OP.

No-one quite knows if they are for venting and 'there there have a slice of cake' agreement with the OP, or should invite serious censure and cries of 'if you dopn't like my condemnation, you shouldn't have asked!' posts - so much upset ensues.

They should be jokey and self-effacing, and sometimes are. If it is a serious parenting issue there are serious categorised boards where they will be better answered.

I think AIBU should be scrapped and replaced by a board called 'ranting and venting' - with a fan extractor to an outside wall.

AND / OR a board called 'MN Jury' - for genuine questions where people need a bit of perspective and want to ask AIBU?

Think the confusion comes from the fact that when people ask "am I being unreasonable" in real life, they mean "I'm right, aren't I?" and the correct answer is always "Of course - it's your dp/mil/dog etc that's being a big twat", whereas on here starting an AIBU thread is like volunteering to be stoned. Don't know why people can't tell the difference.

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FFS use your Hide Topic button if you don't like people having a strop or a moan. I have yet to notice anyone complaining about harsh words or swearing on any of the 'serious/sympathetic' topics like bereavement or TTC, which shows that the nice useful bits of MN are still there and doing fine, thank you.

awww AIBU is the best thread on MN,really contentious,funny,amazed, jaw droping at the same time

who can forget the bampots threads of yore
AIBU

parents who are late for the CM are heidbangers
breast feeding the dog in a cafe is hokey cokey
to think hate the middle classes
to hate working mums
to hate SAHM
to hate MumsNet
MN was much better in the ole days
For Sale Board is evil

i love aibu. and as for everybody going at the OPs - i reckon people are often too quick to side with them. what gets nasty, and this happens elsewhere in MN too, is when an OP has been attacked by 20 people and another 100 jump in to say exactly the same thing. boring mob mentality. tres school ground.

nae wonder AIBU is a riot a few key words and wahey full on barking at da moon ensues

AIBU is brilliant. Why would anyone ask the question if they didn't want a bun fight?

I do love it when people post on AIBU and then get all chippy when someone says they are.

If you want advice and support post your thread somewhere else.

If you really want to know if YABU then, by all means, start a AIBU thread. Do not then be surprised if someone finds you ABU. That is what you asked.

I dip in and out of AIBU threads, sometimes they are funny, occasionally they often get a bit heated.

If you don't like them then hide the topic. Simple.

love the arsey posters who get the hump when everyone tells them YABUeh why ask numnuts

He he he!