To have said no to this?

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Work training and went with a colleague.
Colleague was exhausted and had a migraine while waiting for train home so we sat in the hotel lobby for a bit. She couldn't get comfortable and was trying to sleep. Then asked if she could rest her head on my lap. Said no as would have been odd. She seemed a bit upset about it was I wrong? Just felt inappropriate

Of course you were NBU - that's just bizarre! She's not your child 😒

That would be very inappropriate and unprofessional. YANBU.

Your response was fine. I would have found it awkward as well.

Maybe she was upset because she was feeling poorly.

That was an odd and unprofessional thing to ask. Maybe she was embarrassed after she’d asked so she seemed a bit upset then.

No, ywnbu. Your personal space is your personal space.

I don’t think she’ll have been upset with you personally, just out of her mind with pain and utterly desperate to be lying down in a darkened room and possibly worried about throwing up. Migraines are awful.

You weren’t BU. If she remembers it at all she’ll probably apologise, as she won’t have been in her right mind. It was just an extreme situation.

It's a bit weird, but being someone who suffers with migraines I would of probably asked this too.

When they are bad, all you want to do is curl up in the dark and have someone look after you.

Weird. It would have been inappropriate and unprofessional.

YANBU at all. Was it a sofa? She could have asked you to sit somewhere else so she could curl up on the sofa and put her head down. But to ask to put her head on your lap is unacceptable.

I have had hideous migraines but shudder at the thought of that.
It'd be a big no from me.
Plain weird.

Well that's just weird

Were you sitting on a sofa? If you were I’d thing it was a clumsy migraine induced way of asking you to let her lie down. Migraines are awful, I can get pretty desperate seeking any relief if medication unavailable/not working

Yanbu

Weird doesn't necessarily mean wrong though. I'd have thought it was weird, but realised they must have been out of their mind in pain. Assuming it's someone I got on reasonably ok with I'd have laughed, said something to break the tension like "Well this is something I never imagined I'd be doing this morning!" or "Flippin eck Maureen, I always thought you were weird but this just tops it!" And then I'd have laughed about it with her for many years to come. "Remember that course we went on when you were so ill you slept on my lap?". You couldn't NOT get on with someone after that could you? It might even improve workplace relations.

I would have said hell no! That is an odd request from an adult .

It's just too intimate!!

Sometimes when you’re I’ll you do feel as weak as a little sick child. I’d have said yes and asked if she wanted me to stroke her head!

Could you have maybe moved to a different seat so she could put her head down on the sofa

Your colleague is bonkers. Talk about inappropriate.

YANBU its your personal space. However as a migraine sufferer, believe me the urge to just lay your head down for relief is overwhelming. So I don't think she was trying to be inappropriate or weird. Just in pain.

No you’re NBU to say no if you feel uncomfortable of course. But I couldn’t get worked up about someone asking this, I’d probably have let her. A stranger on a long haul flight once let me lie my legs across them so I could lie down across the seats (I didn’t ask, they offered!) I had a lovely snooze all the way to California.

I would have done the same.

Migraines are awful.