If you have this in your life, how does it feel?

[LilacRain12]

To be loved for who you are, heard and supported and physical comfort whenever you need it?
I don't think I will ever have it, romantically or otherwise.

I found it aged 30 when I met DH, being with him feels like having a warm blanket wrapped round me. We went to a wedding a couple of days ago and this young drunk lad who was being pretty funny overall said well it’s obvious you two are a couple, he clearly adores you.

We aren’t socially awkward but we are massive nerds and just get each other.

I hope you find some comfort and happiness op.

The only objective part of your post is your age. The rest are opinions you've constructed about yourself, probably dating from your childhood.

Have a look at this article - https://www.betterrelationships.org.au/well-being/core-beliefs-self-acceptance/ and this video - s to learn about core beliefs and how you can change the way you think about yourself.

No, sadly I've never felt like anyone's first choice. My romantic relationships have always ended once I realise they dont want me as a priority. My children need and want me though.

I would love to experience a romantic relationship where you could depend on the person and both be each others priority. I am glad that many have found that, especially later in life.

I have it . I met my husband at 18 and we’ve been married for 34 yrs and I’m completely loved and cherished . I suppose you take it for granted if you have it but I do think it’s possible to find ‘the one’ at any age .

Doesn't even have to be romantic, just a connection with someone who can provide those things.
It gets tough carrying everything alone. I fill pages and pages in a notebook of my thoughts but don't even do that anymore as feels too depressing that it's my only outlet.

I'm sorry you feel like this - "Too shy and socially awkward, Boring, unattractive, getting older " , but it is never too late. I was / am exactly like your description . In my former marriage I never felt truly loved, never felt that he had my back.

After my divorce I thought I would remain single - but then DH came into my life . He really does love and cherish me, and it looks like he is there forever. I was 53 when we met - so I'd like to reassure you that it is never too late to meet someone special. Sending hugs to you xx

I’ve had this. From my mum. Romantic love (well remaining in the relationship) is conditional. In one way or another it’s conditional and rightly so otherwise we’d never be able to implement our boundaries as to what is and isn’t acceptable when it comes to how we’re treated. But my mum, who was problematic AF in many ways, loved me no matter what, always used to say when she saw me that she just wanted to kiss my wee cheeks, age was down in the trenches with me when I was struggling and genuinely held me like a baby when I was heart broken, she was the only person I wanted when she died. I didn’t even realise we were so close. I’m lucky to have that and I know that. I can’t imagine trying to find that again anywhere.

I hear you. I have been married twice but both were hiding their true personalities. I feel cheated tbh. I'd like a life partner to share all the things you mention with, and I feel cheated that I don't have this.