To accept second invitation

[Pushmepullu]

Friend has a milestone birthday coming up soon. She isn’t planning on doing anything to celebrate but is hoping to go out with husband and adult children. One of her AC told me a couple of months ago that they were planning on doing something the following weekend and wanted me and DH to come along. I asked what they had planned and for when and was told they would let me know. Friend’s birthday is now next week and we’ve not heard any more. We’ve have been invited to a gig the Saturday after friends birthday by some other friends and I don’t know whether to accept or if I should ask AC if they are still planning something, I sort of feel needy doing this. WWYD?

Just ask the AC if they're still organising something for that weekend as you've been asked to go to a gig...

Sorry not good with acronyms so guessing AC is adult child?

you could ask if a party is going ahead but I imagine it’s either planned and people already invited or the idea has been dropped.
Id probably accept the invite to the gig and if an invite to a part does eventually come then I’d politely decline it since you’ve already got plans.