To block my mum

[chrissybutter]

I dont have a close relationship with my parents.

From the age of 5 if I was ever naughty my mum would tell me she wished I had died, verbally abused me and sometimes would hit me too.

Me and my siblings were often neglected as well and I had to look after my younger brother from the age of 9 ( he is 3 years younger then me ).

I have had issues relating to being a victim of domestic abuse and sexual assault and my parents were never there for me.

Even now my mum will make nasty comments about my appearance, tell me im fat, she takes great pleasure in telling me what an ugly baby I was.
When I visit my parents it is not an enjoyable visit.
They will tell me what I should be doing, demand I buy a house and it leaves me feeling so stressed.

I had it the worst out of all my siblings.

I am now pregnant and I literally cannot stand my mother.
She will call me about 10pm when I have told her many times not to call me so late.

Today she has given me 5 missed calls and bombarded me with texts.
If I dont answer she will just call and call and demand why I am not picking up the phone.
This drives me nuts.

I have now blocked her number as she just causes me too much stress and being pregnant I cant ever imagine treating my child the way she has treated me all my life.

Am I being unreasonable in blocking her number or shall I give her an explanation?

Yanbu but is she likely to show up at your home if she doesn't get an answer?
I would be tempted to send a condensed version of your OP to her and hopefully she'll take the hint and stay away!

Not unreasonable in the slightest.

I'd recommend getting a video doorbell so that you can get notified if there is any human movement outside your front door (before they ring the doorbell too) and you can tell her that you're not there and to stop annoying you.

If she has a key to your place, either get the key back (likely to be difficult to do if she's very stubborn) or simply change the barrel of the lock (quite easy to do) and keep all keys that work that lock.

Best of luck!

She is your abuser. Block her on every means of contact, and if she has a key to your home, get someone in to change the locks.

You have every right to cut all contact with someone so despicable.

Op you're not unreasonable in the slightest. I'd have gone nc with her a long time ago.

Absolutely fine. You could send her a short text saying you have too much on and don't want phone calls if you're comfortable with that.

My mother is blocked for similar reasons!

YANBU Op, please protect yourself from this woman, and your baby when he/she arrives. Go low contact or no contact, and make any contact strictly on what is necessary only for your, nor her, best interests.

Bloody hell. She doesn't deserve to be called mum, that's a horrific way to treat your child. Please do whatever you can to get away from her and go no contact. Don't inflict her on your child either.

Congratulations on your pregnancy☺️

I'd block her from my life completely if she was my M.

Break the cycle.. She gets nowhere near your dc. Block her op. And remember whatever she says she has no rights to your baby. Your job now is to protect your dc from people like her.