I have posted previously about by DM and how I struggle to deal with her behaviour and how she makes me feel.
She is elderly and it’s difficult to deal with her behaviour which, in a nutshell, is very controlling, manipulative and selfish.
I don’t enjoy being in her company and, as I have previously posted, I actually feel uncomfortable when I am with her.
I try and limit the amount of time I am with her because of this. I am not being sensitive. She really is just a difficult lady to be around.
She is often unwell but nothing serious. I think it’s just because she is 80 years old and she feels it at times.
She talks about her ailments all the time and is often at the doctors even though their isn’t much they can do for her.
I try and call once a week but she doesn’t answer very often. She will say she didn’t have her phone on charge or she was in the shower. She rarely calls me back.
This week she told me she was in agony with her back. I offered to do her food shopping. She agreed. Then she messaged to say she had done it herself. Then proceeded to tell me that her back was killing her.
I said I would come over this weekend as she told me she had been in bed for 2 days. She wanted some housework doing. She agreed. It was agreed I would come on Saturday. Great! Then she messaged to say can I come on Sunday instead as she was still unwell. Yes, I said and changed my plans so Sunday was free. Then she messaged to say she was feeling much better and I could come on Saturday if I wanted!!’ Arrgggh
I said I couldn’t now so would see her on Sunday as agreed.
Just now I receive another message. I don’t have to come on Sunday and she has done all her housework. I GIVE UP.
Why all the drama. Surely it’s not this difficult to make a plan. Yes I am free such a day. Great! See you then.
Now in all honesty she has got me all worked up as I can’t help but feel this is all a control game. One minute she is in bed, the next managing to clean a 3 bed semi?!
AIBU? I am already worked up with her behaviour never mind going to visit for a chat!!
Sorry for ranting but I get so tired with her behaviour. I have been feeling great until I have to have contact with her and then I feel so low and stressed.