Friend who takes around a week to text back

[Puffinsandcreeks]

I have a friend who usually takes a week to ten days to reply to texts.
This is irritating itself to be honest, especially as sometimes they instigate the conversation...I'll reply to their message, but getting a response to THAT can still take a week.
Arranging to see them is impossible because of this. They're also constantly online on Instagram, and tag me on photos/in comments usually about 20 times per day (no exaggeration) so I know they have their phone in their hand. The tags are unrelated to any of our conversations.

This person is a SAHM mum with two preschool age children.

AIBU to be sick of it? A little while ago I just stopped instigating conversation so they started it up, but again, took weeks to reply...

I wouldn't reply to a message if someone took a week to reply. But if the rest of the friendship is good can you call her instead to make plans?

Have you ever spoken to her about how long she takes to reply? It doesn't have to be a big scary confrontation it could just be how come you take so long to reply?

I had this so I started taking 10 days to reply and this seemed to do the trick. I also make sure I don’t instigate more than 50% of chats with with her even though I’m happy to instigate up to two thirds with other friends who reply quickly.

If you want to talk to her just pick up the phone and call her, she’s probably just busy and easily distracted.

@CinemaCrazy the idea of purposely countering this by deciding to take x many days to reply in retaliation is childish.

I sometimes take days to text and some of my friends too. We all understand. Sometimes I don't have the energy

@CinemaCrazy the idea of purposely countering this by deciding to take x many days to reply in retaliation is childish
Childish but it worked, she always replies to me on the same day now. I was debating if I wanted to actually stay in touch with her and now our friendship is working well.

I don’t know how much I mind if someone takes a week to reply. The tagging me on Instagram would annoy me no end though.

The Instagram tags do annoy me, I don't spend a lot of time on social media because I don't have time. I don't want to sit watching 20 videos or going through a load of posts.

I wouldn't mind if it was a week every now and again but it's been going on for maybe 18 months or more, and it's that long for every single text.
I've had times where I haven't replied to somebody until the next day and I'll usually explain sorry, I've been really busy with [reason here].

I hate phone calls and don't have time for them myself, I'm also really not sure how busy people are if they spend all day on Instagram, tiktok, or Facebook. I'm happy to voice note as I can record & listen to them whilst getting on with the rest of my life.

I haven't asked why she takes so long, maybe I should. I just feel like everything is very one sided and it's becoming really disappointing.

Hi everyone first time writing on MN, I was looking for similar advice as the one above.

I've met a mum friend recently, her son and my son are close school friends and as their friendship blossomed the mum and I became more friendly. We had a playdate a couple of weeks ago and all was good we went to their house and spent the afternoon there. The kids had a lovely time, me and other mum had a good laugh and after a few hours we left. Once I got home I texted her to thank her for a lovely afternoon and her hospitality, well I never heard back from her she's never called or texted and when I've seen her on school runs it has been in passing so a quick hello from both sides and that's about it. Boys are still super close but I'm not sure if I offended the mum or what.

FYI I don't have many mum friends so a little paranoid I may have done something wrong, it's a shame because we got on really well. Any advice would be appreciated. Sorry I know it's long 😕