Neighbour horrible to me but nice to DH

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My next door neighbour for some reason seems to hate me. He ignores me when I say hello and will only reluctantly say hello to me if I am with someone else. He'll happily wave at my DH and say 'hi mate' then a long pause, 'and Sunday'. Like it really pains him to acknowledge me at all. Loves my DH though.

No idea what I have done. Keep myself to myself, I'm quiet, don't have visitors over so that can't be annoying him.

He has given my husband a tool for the garden for a project that he is about to do. The project is for me if that makes a difference. Anyways, I feel like I don't want my DH to use his equipment. I know that sounds childish and pathetic but I don't want anything to do with the man. I would rather do the project myself but my husband wants to be the one to do it so I don't really feel like I can say anything.

Am I being an idiot? What should I do?

Just ignore back ? My neighbours fell out with my immediate neighbour and because it seems I still get on with her they now won't speak to me or acknowledge me

So be it

People are weird

Thanks, yeah I think I will ignore from now on. Should I say to my DH that I want him to stick the equipment where the sun doesn't shine? Or am I being childish?

Why on earth do you keep saying hello to him. Ignore him from now on.

And yes, tell DH you don’t want his equipment used for your project (but help DH sort alternative).

Just walk past him, he doesn’t exist for you anymore.

@CherryMaDeara said it.
I have people be like this with me. Zero fucks given. Carry on with the day.

Some people decide who they are going to like. It might be based on something silly like, you remind them of an ex or an ex friend, you don't dress the way they think is acceptable. The list goes on. Don't give them the time of day or let it annoy you.

I would get your husband to use the tool for your project, then you return it thanking him profusely. That should rile him.
Then each you see him, smile broadly, wave enthusiastically and thank him again for the loan of the tool.
Everytime. For years! 😂

There was a bitchy dad like that at my kids primary school. Just ignore. Don't give him the pleasure of knowing he's bothering you. People like that were probably bullies at school and missing it

Is he racist? Sizeist? Disablist? Sexist?

Kill him with kindness. They fucking hate that.

Agree with this.

I positively enjoy being friendly to people who don't like me.

Thanks everyone. I am torn between killing him with kindness and saying hello with extra umph or ignoring him completely. Now I've had time to think about it, I might do both. Be over the top friendly in front of other people just like the way he only acknowledges me when other people are around and then completely ignoring him if it's just the two of us like he does to me.

‘and Sunday’….

what does that mean?

I love watching them squirm under a charm offensive. But I'm twisted like that.

It's in place of op actual name.

You have two options.

Either just ignore him, or go massively over the top friendly just to annoy him. You know, really loudly shouting MORNING!!!! when you see him, with a big wave. Maybe chuck in a LOVELY DAY!!!! whilst pointing generically at the sky.

I’d probably do the latter, but that’s me.

Once lived next door to someone who blanked my partner but not me. After a while (and veiled comment) we realised that she thought he was abusing me. I repeatedly had injuries (health condition), and you could sometimes hear him yelling through the wall (at fifa - he would never talk to me that way)! Honestly it was still weird as she never actually “helped” (not that I needed it but she thought I did!) just ignored him!

long story short, people are weird and you never know what’s going on in their heads. I’d just ignore and try not to give them any headspace!

Sounds like a bromance on the neighbours side, he hates women and /or is a complete knob.

When you spot him on his drive at an ideal time to return this item of equipment please shout very loudly to your husband "MrSunday, quick, THE TOOL FROM NEXT DOOR!".

And then kill him with kindness. 👍🏻

Why does your husband still talk to him if he ignores you, doesn't he say anything to him? I think I'd be more upset with my husband tbh.

Ignore him, dont acknowledge him at all. Be thankful, he sounds like a pita.

Perhaps it’s a Love Actually scenario and he secretly loves you and cannot bare to acknowledge ! I would just keep loudly trilling hi a few more times and then go silent and make weird staring eyes and a curl my lip after being ignored clearly a few more weeks 😂

I think I’d do what others suggest and kill him with kindness in front of other people, then ignore him when you are alone.