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My 10 year old whos never had a proper birthday party before asked for one for her 10th birthday. She invited 30 children from school / dance/neighbours.
She invited the all the girls from her class minus 2 who she doesn’t get on with ( one who has bullied her all through primary - sprained her arm purposely, stamped on her head, calls her fat)
Tonight was the party some girls popped a snapchat story on their phones( not my daughter and not a pic of my daughter as i have seen the story ).
i then received this message from the bullies Mum
Other Mum : Hi, if you wouldn’t mind please can you ask the girls not to voice message …..telling her to “get over it” for not being invited to …. party. She was quite upset about not coming anyway but understands that’s it’s ….choice who she invites but getting messages like that isn’t very nice and she’s now devastated x

Me: Really sorry , you know what they r like with there phones they are going in 10 mins . I then suggested to the girls they put there phone down and did some dancing

Other Mum : Yeah but it’s really unkind. I know it’s not your fault at all but someone needs to tell them that’s not ok x

Me : I do agree but you will have to speak with their parents directly

Other Mum : Agree. But I just wanted you to ask them to stop because it’s really not a kind thing to do. Anyway I’ll leave you to the party.

What would you all have done in my situation, there were 30 girls in total and I didn’t feel i should tell children off that aren’t mine.
was i in the wrong for telling the parent speak to their parent/guardians direct and not getting involved. Personally if this was the other way round i would have just taken the phone off my child and turned it off until tomo

I agree wholeheartedly with this.

Sort it out OP

Fuck her, maybe she should have thought of what bullying feels like when her daughter was physically assaulting yours.

I’m glad the bully brat received those messages.

Aren't you charming? 🙄

Personally I think she got a taste of her own medicine and didn't like it!

Bloody hell, how old are you, you sound incredibly vindictive and very infantile. If you are a grown up try acting like one.
You are glad that a child left out of a party receiving vindictive messages, that's utterly abhorrent.
This child was a bully but the actions of some if the children at the party was bad too. Your post is shocking though.

The daughter will be over eleven and a half now

Why are you apologising and communicating with that idiot?

your daughter didn’t message her daughter so it’s absolutely nothing to do with you.

However, as the host of the party I would not have entertained ten year olds on their phone and would have told them to put phones away as it’s rude to do so at a party.

Let’s bypass the fact that 10 year olds probably shouldn’t all have phones and be snap chatting at a party (if at all - this itself isn’t okay) why would you enrage with the girls mum?

Or just say okay I’ll speak to them and leave it at that?

A simple ‘girls we aren’t here to be mean to other people via Snapchat while at the party put them away’ would do.

What was the party they had their phones out texting that much anyway?

Yup. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

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