To ask if you agree with my friend re men and break ups?

[LibbyLous]

So my friend said something today which I have not a lot of experience in. I only had one break up from a (my only) long term relationship.

I’m getting on good. I do have better days and then a day here and there when I feel a bit low, but I’m looking after myself, making myself get out and about and focusing on the now.

However, according to my friend men take 3-4 months longer to register break ups. As in he will realise what he lost (wherever that’s good or not) after a longer period of time.

Do you think that’s true? Any experiences?

Why does it matter?

Nope.

I think your friend is just trying to make you feel better.

In my experience men move on much quicker because they can't handle being alone. They are much more likely than women to have a replacement lined up while relationships are failing.

I reckon men jump into the first pair of pants they can and don't look back..

Please don’t wait for him to come back

It doesn’t really matter but I thought it was interesting 🤷🏼‍♀️
I didn’t really think about him much as I was too invested in how I was feeling. I feel like I moved on too quickly. Like sometimes I’m finding it a bit scary.
But I have to fess up, I’d be interested to see how he has been feeling or what his thoughts are.

Totally normal and to be expected that you would wonder where he's at occasionally, just have to get used to the idea you won't have an answer ❤️ and the longer you don't know the less you will care, which is progress!

I think men move on easier.

It's not unusual for a man to suddenly be engaged after coming out of a long term relationship, even if there was no overlap.

I think with older men, in particular - if they break up with one woman, they need another quickly to fill the vacancy of running around after them. So, it's a practical thing more than anything else.

A lot of women take the time to lick their wounds rather than immediately go on the rebound.

PS I am sorry you're hurting. I promise, all these sucky feelings will lessen in time. Hold on.

Yep I’d say that’s my experience too.

The men I know who are divorced or widowed have another relationship within a months whereas the women in same position have stayed single for far longer and even when they meet someone, take things slower.

Men aren’t clones with a hive mind. Some will get over stuff fast, some won’t. It depends on the individual and the circumstances. I’d imagine that someone whose resilient who’d decided to end the relationship will be over it almost immediately.

This. I've been pined over and also forgotten in a second. Depends on the people involved and the relationship.

Same for women. I skipped away from my first marriage. But the relationship just after broke me.