Am I worrying over nothing?

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Sorry if TMI!

When my boyfriend and I first got together, we were at it like rabbits. Sometimes he’d text some inappropriate things during the day and I just know he was in the mood a loooot.

In recent weeks we have both been super super busy with lots of things. His love has been clear - he’s supported me, he tells me nice things, he gives me cuddles and massages. He can’t do enough for me.
But I can’t help but feel he loves me, but isn’t attracted to me anymore. When we get into bed we will cuddle, he will kiss me on the forehead and then we will fall asleep. He will text me during the day more cutesy things such as calling me cute or lovely, and never flirtatious or sexual anymore.

I mentioned this to him and he said it’s not true, we’re just busy and tired at the moment.

But I just can’t help but feel it’s missing. He used to tell/text me randomly like “god I can’t resist you” and “I’m so attracted to you” etc but now it’s just sweet stuff.
We also have this thing where we pull a specific silly face, and this has become part of a of our interactions now. When I said this he said “we should just be ourselves” but I’m worried it means the other stuff isn’t there for him anymore.

Do I have anything to worry about? For the record I know he’s clearly loving and I should be grateful but yeah, the sexual stuff I’m just not sure.

thank you

How long have you been together? The lust you describe is mostly in the early stages in my experience, and it sounds now like he’s falling in love with you? Plus being busy, I wouldn’t worry if I was you x

Been properly together just under a year x

I'm guessing this is your first long term relationship. Completely normal I'm afraid. None of us can create something long term and meaningful alongside the thrill of the new

How old are you OP?

25

Most people say the hot lust phase does go after about a year. If relationships are to survive longer term they normally evolve into something a bit different to the early days.
Some people are addicted to that early stage lust and they go from short relationship to short relationship over and over again.

It is normal in my experience Op. The only time that very passionate phase really lasted much longer was in a long distance relationship, for obvious reasons!

Sounds like your relationship has just moved into the next stage. Plus life does sometimes just get busy. Try not to overthink it.

Some men have a sex drive that lasts OP. It may be that you need on for your long term partner.

You may not be compatible with this nice guy. It’s not about being right or wrong. You have different appetites. If it’s a problem now, you will be miserable in 10 years. You don’t have to settle for a life if suffering.

“Of suffering “