Am I being over sensitive…

[Sophie2525]

A long time ago I was sexually assaulted. My sister is aware of this, however on 2 occasions she has made comments that in the moment have upset me. For example when we were on an evening out they only had shared male and female toilets, she said “I’m not using those what if I get raped”, but almost in joking way.

AIBU to be upset with these comments? She’s such an amazing sister and I can’t fault her in any other way.

If she is such a lovely sister, could you ask her to think before she speaks in these kinds of situations?

In your example, if she said it and realised it was really insensitive when it was too late, she really ought to apologize IMO.

But until you have a chat with her about it, you won't each know how the other one feels. xx

Yes YABU and oversensitive. Your SA is
not going to be at the forefront of her mind and she shouldn’t have to censor herself.

I understand it’s not on her mind and it’s not all about me, but it’s a huge trigger for me, and I don’t think it’s funny when it’s Said in a jokey way

If she's a nice sister and not doing this intentionally then surely you can just say to her that you find it upsetting?

@Comedycook I could definitely speak to her, it’s just I don’t if I’m being unreasonable to feel hurt, hence why I’ve asked on here.

Sometimes people don’t think of how comments can be triggers for other people. Maybe try speaking to her about it and let her know how it makes you feel.
You’re not being over sensitive. Unless you’ve been through something that changes you forever people won’t understand what it feels like to have certain words or phrases said that can make your blood run cold.

@ShineBright1209 thank you, it’s nice to hear someone understanding. That’s exactly how I feel my blood runs cold, it takes me back to that very moment. My

Speak with your sister about it. She probably didn’t think about how it would affect you, especially if you appear to be over it now and to have got on with your life.
There’s always going to be something on the tv or conversations with people that certain topics come up that you would rather not be part of that you can’t control but when it’s someone your close to saying things you take it more personally.

I don't think she said anything to deliberately upset you, it was an off the cuff remark. Do you expect her to constantly think about your ordeal every second of every day? Politely remind her the subject is still very raw perhaps.