Little Sister said mums bf assaulted her . Advice .

[Mummasummer]

My sister aged 14 lives between mum
And dad.

Mum has new bf who has moved in with a year ago.

Today my sister told my dad that mum’s new boyfriend has been pushing her into her bedroom when she tries to leave it , shoutis at her and refuses to let her leave the house dressed in what he deems ‘inappropriate’ clothes.

Sister said mum’s boyfriend has apparently pulled at her skirts saying they are too short and she ( understandably) felt uncomfortable.

My dad doesn’t want my sister to return home to her mum after the weekend.

What should my dad do ?
Report to Police ? School?
What would police do ?
Social services ?
Would full custody be grated ?

I am very concerned .

I’d definitely tell her to stay at your dad’s until he’s spoken to her stepdad. If he really is doing those things (and he has no parental responsibility obviously) then he is totally in the wrong. Can you chat with your mum? Your dad can keep her at his house and at 14, I don’t see any court trying to force her back to your mum’s if her boyfriend is making your sister uncomfortable.

She is 14. Her dad should support her with what she wants to happen next. If she wants to stay with him and this is possible then courts won't force her back to her mum's house.

Agree with the poster above.

Tell your father to keep her with him.

He then needs to contact your mother and explain why and that she will not be returning to your mothers house whilst her boyfriend is still living there.

The ball is then in your mums court.

She can get rid of the boyfriend or otherwise she'll have to go to court to access to your sister.

However, at 14 that would be a bit pointless. Your sisters wishes (and claims) will be taken into account. Has she any proof of her allegations (I'm not saying you should disbelieve her but any proof would be helpful if it goes to court).

Safeguarding. Don't send her back to somewhere she is potentially at risk.

This needs reporting ASAP.

The school will have a safeguarding lead that will be able to help you.

Do not make her go back there, what a vile bully he is.
Has your dad spoke to your mum? has she witnessed this and stood back?

Sounds really dangerous.

Definitely stay at Dad’s and do not allow to Mum’s, especially never overnight. Call NSPCC and your local authority social work department. Inform her school.

Ask local police if they’re able to run a check on the boyfriend.

Consult solicitor about challenging custody arrangements.

If the bloke feels she is dressed inappropriately then he should speak to her mother and let her decide about her daughter.

It doesn't sound like concern for her well-being though.

It sounds more like he is fighting an attraction for her, hence the tugging on the skirt and wanting her to stay in her room.

I think she's in danger of him molesting her.

She should stay with her dad and dad should advocate on her behalf factually in writing to mum, outlining the issue.

Report to school. Ask police to check new partner

Agree with PP this sounds like it could escalate.

Your sister should stay with her dad. It’s extremely unlikely she would be forced to go home.

Do you think your mother will support her daughter or side with her sleazy boyfriend?

What a creep.
And the mother - women who put dick before their children deserve to lose access.
Your little sister should be supported in keeping away from this man. Report to the school safeguarding lead.

She needs to stay with your dad, so she’s definitely safe.

Has your mother witnessed this behaviour?

She should stay with dad. Dad needs to tell mum why, inform school of what's happening. Tell ss if involved.

Call the police or look up the number for your local mash referral service (multi agency safeguarding hub) and ring them to report it or look up the name of her schools DSL (designated safeguarding lead) and email them. It will be taken seriously and in the mean time don't make her go back there. His behaviour is unacceptable and abusive.

at 14 she can decide where to stay-if the mother wants access she can try in courts but i doubt theyd force her

Report to police immediately and School Safeguarding Lead on Monday morning. Your dad needs to keep her with him. Your mum either gets rid of this vile man or she looses your sister.