Friend Group - AIBU?

[ChickaBloke]

Ok I've got this group of school friends and when we were 25 a few years ago - one of them was still obsessed with impressing the popular boys in the class even though we left school 10 years before. We were in a nightclub one Saturday evening and she spotted a lad from our school - turned to me and asked something like "tell Mark that Sarah is keen to talk to him" - something very much along those lines. I did go up to Mark but instead of mentioning Sarah had a straightforward sensible conversation with him. A few months later I left this group because there was this vibe throughout the group.

AIBU to have found this immature and left the group?

'A few years ago' - why is this on your mind now?

• I think there is more to it

YABU to still be dwelling on this.

What's the issue? Are you looking to be friends with then again?

I mean, no it wasn't unreasonable, but why, years later, be second guessing yourself

Well you don't have to be part of any group if you don't want to be but there doesn't seem to be a big issue here. In your example you could have just said no if you were uncomfortable with the request.

Thank you all for responding - I admit I've got a hang up about this a bit.

There is more to it - as one op said.

I feel guilty for breaking off - but also feel they held me back. When I was fat and lost weight to get to a normal weight for my height - one of them kept on at me that I was anorexic !! Ffs!!
Also, another girl in the group - if we were out at a pub and I was having some banter with some lads or making a witty comeback she'd say "well done for saying that" - j mean she was practically congratulating me for saying hello!!

Also my parents decided they were 'good' friends for me to have and tried to push me towards them even though this made me feel uncomfortable as I wasn't really suited to them - so yes I admit I've got a hang up about this

I had a guy in his late 40s tell me he fancied my mate and did I think she fancied him?

Tell her yourself mate. Nothing less attractive than a 47 year old bloke whose not got the gumption to ask you if you'd like to get a drink together sometime.

OP, I think your friend was really immature.

Thank you @brightdayloomingdark I agree

I think you all need to grow up.

You're no doubt right @Pottedpalm

I think OP, that you seem a very nice person who ended up with this peer group more because your parents seemed to like them

They were quite patronising, immature and defo were not cheerleadering you when you lost weight - and a true friend would, instead of making passive aggressive remarks!

Honestly, i think you are well shot of these plebs

Thanks @HollaWithDaRisinSound

Thank you ! Your comments have been very valuable as I DJ have an issue with this! I'm glad you see things the same way I do! Your post has motivated me to go to the gym which I wasn't going to do so thanks !

Sorry typo!

I DO have an issue not DJ!! Although maybe I should start DJing now? If the price is right of course ..

Just to mention as well the Sarah - Mark thing isn't the only thing that's immature- just an example