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To think I will just never be ok in a relationship

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garlicbreadgal · 14/09/2023 16:37

I suffer from really bad self esteem, awaiting an ADHD assessment and become overwhelmed really easily. I’m going through a lot of stress at the moment and my poor boyfriend is treating me so well.

I know that when we first met I was in a great place mentally. He said he loved the fact I was so carefree and laid back. I’m not like that now. Every day I say to him “I’m sorry I’ll be my old self soon” but I’m starting to think that this is me now. Every day at least once a day I’m moaning about something, or becoming upset about something, or having a serious conversation. My self esteem is in tatters and I beat myself up over something every day.
I said I’m supposed to be the fun one. He says “you’re supposed to be nothing but you” and that he loves me regardless but I’m really struggling.
I am in therapy and on meds but no improvements yet.

I’m just so stressed about how I’m coming across that I’m just making it worse.

Has anyone got any advice for me?

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 14/09/2023 16:38

Stop saying that you will change, just be you.

WtfHormones · 14/09/2023 16:42

Read unmasking by Devon Price it's inspiring and uplifting it's relevant to ADHD people even though it is wrote about autistic people.

garlicbreadgal · 14/09/2023 17:40

Thank you x

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MatildaTheCat · 14/09/2023 17:45

I’m supposed to be the fun one.

Why? That’s a self imposed identity that almost nobody on the planet can claim, nor indeed should they. Being human is a messy and evolving thing. Your boyfriend says he loves you. Believe him.

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