I’m fed up of having no support network. What i seem to have instead is a judgement network.
Family mostly- all very quick to give their opinion and criticism, but never offer support or practical help.
We have a dc with SEN and zero help , yet time and time again we get situations where we are criticised eg
MIL wants a lift to the shops - I say i can’t because ds has an appt and she gets annoyed and says that it doesn’t need BOTH of us to go and dh should then be free to take her. Or she starts calling saying that BIL can’t get hold of dh and that he’s doing too much with the dc and I want to scream ‘well maybe if you bothered to come round or help he might have more free time !!’
Same with my mother. I’ll say to her something about my cleaner and she will start telling me that she never had a cleaner, why do I need one and why can’t I organise myself better or ‘get up earlier to get a wash on and out on the line and a quick Hoover and tidy up ’ but I’m f*ing exhausted as ds doesn’t sleep then she tells me how she’s going that day to help my dsis with her kids (both NT) and they are going to a cafe but nobody ever bothers to see me, I’ve invited them multiple times and they sit back and start asking for tea , coffee, where are the biscuits etc when I’d just love her to come in and say ‘have an hour I’ll play with dc’ but it’s never going to happen.
MIL will always say we don’t make an effort to go to occasions as we missed 2 weddings this year as ds just wouldn’t have coped and i get told it’s my job to stay at home with the dc so ‘at least dh can have a life’
it’s just constant criticism