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Am I tight? Or is my friend?

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catmom93 · 14/09/2023 11:27

Went to dinner at a friend's house and we decided to watch a movie afterwards. She mentioned a recent release on amazon prime, I said “Sure, that one sounds fun.” But she then pointed out “We'd have to pay for it though."

I suggested a few of the free movies and she dismissed all my suggestions - basically, we we going to watch the new release. So I handed over my half - a couple of pounds - but I was a bit bemused.

Part of me thinks maybe I was cheeky to expect her to suck up the cost as the host, but the other part keeps thinking “I can’t believe she charged me to watch tv in her house!”

If it was the 90s and we were walking down to blockbuster for a specific movie I'd expect to split the cost, but as an adult invited to someone else's home for the evening, I wasn’t really expecting to open my wallet! Am I being tight? Or was she?

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 14/09/2023 17:40

She sounds very tight!

I can’t imagine asking someone to pay towards buying a film on my Amazon prime - which I’d then get to keep as an owned film afterwards.

Especially if that person was happy with free films and I wasn’t!

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catmom93 · 14/09/2023 20:51

ISpyNoPlumPie · 14/09/2023 11:52

"I suggested a few of the free movies and she dismissed all my suggestions - basically, we we going to watch the new release. So I handed over my half - a couple of pounds - but I was a bit bemused."

I'm wondering what happened here. I would have said "I'm not that bothered about watching it" and then I'm struggling to see how you ended up paying. Did you offer or did she ask? If you offered - WHY? If she asked I would have said "I don't have any cash". The I'd have been pissed off and so I'd have had to leave not long after. The I might stop doing stuff with her because this is SO weird!

Basically she mentioned that particular option would cost money... Then when we'd gone through the free options and she rejected them all, she said again "so that's £2.50 each." So I just got my purse out!

I could have said I hadn't brought any money with me I guess, but the fact she brought up the idea of splitting it made me think she would be sitting there silently resenting me if I didn't put in my half!

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catmom93 · 14/09/2023 20:53

Undisclosedlocation · 14/09/2023 12:37

I think giving headspace to it either way is a bit tight from both if you tbh.
Did you contribute booze or anything to the meal? If not, I can see she might feel a bit aggrieved about stumping up for the movie too

Edited

That's a good point actually. I didn't take booze because neither of us drink, and we alternate cooking for each other so we've never really got into the culture of bringing a hostess gift. It's more of a casual hangout. I've definitely provided plenty of meals for her in the past. But it was so weird it did make me wonder if she's thinking I owe her for something!

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TomatoSandwiches · 14/09/2023 21:25

I can't believe she made you split a fiver, how embarrassing.

Viviennemary · 14/09/2023 21:28

Sounds an awful embarrassment to be asked for £2.

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