Blocked on all SM by friend

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Was I in tbe wrong??

** beware very long read

I had a friend that I knew from our younger days lost touch when we were in out 20's now both in mid 40.

We got speaking again when our same age children started the same High School 5 years ago.

Totally different parenting style, her kids are allowed to vape,swear drink and have sex all at a young age but each to her their own.

Never once have I judge her, always been supportive to her though out all her crisis and drama with her kids..always been at the end of the phone when she's needed to rant etc helped out as much as I can.

So we're call her friend A I also have a friend who I have know since being little will call her b and parents completely different to A.

A's daughter was in the same friends group as B.

A's daughter told a horrendous lie to this group... quite a disturbing lie! I told A as b had asked me how A was as she knew we were friend.. Friend A brushed in under the carpet and left it bearing in mind A's daughter is forever in trouble at school being excluded etc etc

Friend A said her daughter was confused when she told the lie and left it at that.This then caused issues in the friends group as she continued to lie to the group but was eventually found out that it wasn't true...

A's daughter continued to lie about other things to this group inc personal information about my friend and her other daughters. Friend b knew stuff about my friend and her daughters but twisted version of it. I Still didn't say anything to friend A at this point.

This is where I'm wrong? Friend A has accused friend b daughter of bullying her, plastered friends b daughters name all over social media for something she didn't do but iv had to listen to friend A slagging both friend b and her daughter off calling them cunts etc

I hasn't said anything to friend A about what I was told by friend b before as I knew friend A reaction.

It's come to head this week and I try to explain to friend A that I think her daughter had been only telling half of what had been going on and to speak to the parents about it all.. she chose not to speak to them.

I wasn't judgemental at all... it started by her sending a screenshot of a message that had been sent to her daughter but just part of it by her ex boyfriend ( whom she should have blocked and had to been told to block him previously) said to her to contact his mum but to get the full message first not just his part... so you can see what's was said before that part. Bearing in mind these are 13 year old and friend A chooses not to believe her daughter does anything wrong.

I asked why she didn't make sure her daughter had blocked him? ?
She didn't reply except to slag everyone else and their kids off... by this point I had enough of listening to her slag friend b off when her daughter hadn't done anything.

Wasn't rude,nasty,judgemental in anyway
Kindly told her what her daughter had been saying to friend b daughter which i knew was the truth as she wouldn't have known any off it without daughters a telling her....

I then get told I shouldn't have got involved and why is friend b slagging her daughter off!
She wasn't slagging her off at all, she just told me what her daughter had said..

I replied with I would want to know what my child was saying/doing so I could try and put it right.

Friend A got really angry and said there's no friendship between us she doesn't trust me, I'm judgemental and never to contact her again..

So was I wrong in telling her??

Good riddance, you are better off without

You're well rid of her.
Her daughter is not picking it off the trees.
A is far from a good person or friend, block her.

I am not sure I can make out much of the story but it sounds as though there were some discussions going on between yourself and B behind A's back about her child and what was going on in junior friendship group. I would have personally stayed well out of my kid's business and let them sort things out themselves. I would say to B that I don't want to hear anything about someone else's kids and could she please take it to A if she is so concerned. Otherwise let the kids figure it out themselves.
While I wouldn't overreact like A, I also wouldn't put myself in your position to begin with.
As to the internet posts, friend B should report it to school as cyber bullying and let them deal with the matter. If your child is involved in these posts, then you should do the same.

I'm exhausted just reading that. You all seem to be getting very over-involved in the bickering of a bunch of 13-year-olds.

Either way, Friend A sounds like an unhinged drama queen (I assume that's where her daughter gets it from) and I think the best option here is for you to simply accept that the friendship's over and stop getting involved in the teen angst of other people's kids.

It’s fantastic A has blocked you. She and her offspring are trash. Never contact her again.

I think you really shouldn’t have got involved between them. Especially on a kids drama.

we have a drama in our group right now. My husband and I have decided not to pass opinin, question behaviour and just stay out of it, as, like you, there is no way to know the full truth and emotions are high .

however you chose to get involved, passing stuff on, questioning decisions etc and as such, this is where you fell foul. I also suspect you have been judgey as as much as you keep telling us you aren’t, it’s very clear from your op you do judge. I suspect that’s why you decided to get elbow deep in the drama.

I think taking a step back from getting involved in all of this would have been sensible. But it sounds like you're well out of it. The parent sounds like a child.

In the wrong or not, life will be calmer now, so all good!

She sounds awful and unfortunately her kids are going that way too. Not much you can do about it. Look on it as a blessing that she has blocked you.

She’s done you a favour.