Feeling lonely is just me and my kids

[Honeybu]

I have no family and have some friends but they have disappointed me in the past so no trust, 3 years ago made a friend with a school mum, she seem really nice to me and my kids but suddenly a year ago a new mum ( her daughter) joined the school so we both made friends with this new mum and our three kids played together in school. Slowly but suddenly she dumped me and is now only friend with this new mum. She doesn’t bother asking for play dates, when I ask she is busy and wouldn’t answer my call and would text instead and so many other reasons not to communicate or be close to me. Would call and text the other lady during school holiday but not me. This got me so confused as I couldn’t think what I did wrong to her. Is it because I’m a single parent and they both have husband. I’m very respectful and responsible with a good career and my kids are well behaved.

Hi, why don't you text her and ask her? In my experience you don't need people like that in your life but I understand it's hard. Could you not join a group like yoga where it's not too busy and you can get to know people more?

Thanks @Turningamumagain I don’t want to ask her as feel I don’t people like her. What upset me most is that my kids get to love her so much and now she disappeared. She was so nice and then bam disappeared. What made me think she’s not nice is how can you ditch old friend for new one when they did nothing wrong. Even if I wronged her unknowingly if she’s a friend she would talk to me.

I am in similar position to you except I have family but hardly many friends. My life has revolved around my three lovely children who all have intellectual disabilities to the point where I have channelled all of my energy and time to ensure their needs - mostly educational have been met. I know I need to get out there more and socialise but sometimes I just can't be bothered.

You sound rather lovely, and if the school mum doesn't want to be your mate - it is her loss not yours!

Yes I agree it is very strange. People can turn funny if they're jealous over something or if they think this other person is the more popular option. I've always found people to be strange especially you haven't known them. I used to be friends with lots of people now I just have a handful of close friends who I have known since school mainly. As the ones who I have made along the way with my children at school or groups always seem to fizzle out. Children are resilient and they have you which is the most important person and they have their friends and teachers at school. I would definitely try and do something for yourself or take them to an after school club so it's a different environment and try to meet someone there