To start dating other people?

[Wimpyburger]

I've told DP things are over, and moved out. I wouldn't normally jump into another relationship but I've moved to the absolute middle of nowhere with no social things and no friends or family and feel lonely.

DP hasn't really accepted its over no matter how many times I've said so, so I feel a bit edgy and guilty.

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Why are you still in contact?
Kids?
How long since you separated?

If it’s over and you are single then you are free to do whatever you like.

My advice, take it or leave it, would be to have some time being single and do things for you first. Invest in yourself, your hobbies, friends etc rather than rushing into a new relationship. When my marriage broke down I felt desperately lonely but 3 years later I am single by choice and love my life on my terms. It’s great having some freedom to have your house how you want it, eat what you like, see who you want etc. Perhaps I would like to meet someone at some point in the future but not because I’m lonely or need someone.

How long has it been? Any children?

I'm not sure that dating would be my first solution for feeling lonely.
If you want to find someone else by all means go for it. But if you just want to fill a gap in your life I'd look for friendship elsewhere.

If you're ready to start dating then fine, crack on. I would address the isolation in other ways too though. I've made this mistake recently. Moved to somewhere where I knew nobody and focussed on a partner. Met my amazing DP, great, but it would be nice to have some friends here too. Why are you still in touch though?

Sorry:

No kids.

Split up has been ongoing for about a month but it's only a few days since I saw him.

Reason for split is he had an affair a years ago and I couldn't move on so things never really got better.

I don't really want a new relationship, but am just a bit bored and lonely and say here every day and night.

We are still in touch as there's no real reason not to be - we are still best friends, and I think going through the closure phase where he thinks we can fix it still

In that case, yabu. No judgement, just think you need to give yourself space to heal. And space to make new friends/social life.
It will help both of you, if you cut contact x

Honestly I'd focus on getting confident and comfortable in your own company.

Being lonely and dating lowers your barriers to shitty men.

By all means try and get a life going but I'd stay off dating for a while.

I know the natural answer is telling me to get comfortable in my own company.

I already am.

I have WFH for 30 years.

I raised a kid alone without dating for 15 years.

I am extremely comfortable.

I have just been in a miserable relationship for years, after someone did something awful and I paid the price and I am getting older and don't want to waste my life?

I am really more worried about if it's unreasonable in respect of DP.

The fact you are still calling him ‘DP’ would suggest perhaps you aren’t ready to date someone else!
Usually when you break up with someone they become your XP and what you do no longer has anything to do with them - especially when you don’t have DC together.

I would call him my ex verbally, I think just a habit, not Freud!