Have you led a charmed life?

[Inspoporn]

Disclaimer, I know nobody has a totally blessed existence.

However there are some people who do acknowledge they have had a lovely smooth life, with no extremely difficult hurdles to date.

Those lives are like something off the telly to me Let me live vicariously, and tell me about your lovely life, whatever that looks like to you - family, career, whatever really.

I just want to read cheerful or glamorous stories about (all or any of the following) happy childhoods, amazing uni experiences, career success, warm loving families or anything else that sums up an amazing idyllic life.

Recently bereaved here to cancer after an awful time, so just looking for some inspiration about how joyous and beautiful life can be.

I wouldn't say charmed, there have been difficult bits, but I have my own home, a lovely DH, DC and extended family, a hobby I love and a job which is worthwhile and pays enough for me to live on. I feel incredibly lucky to have what I do.

Yes. Feel blessed for a number of reasons.

House paid off, married over 20 years, three healthy children who all get on, a pt job I really enjoy, no money worries.

Didn't think it would be this way (having very young children nearly broke us up) but we got through that bit and are now good.

All grandparents still alive too in their '70s and '80s which I know also is reasonably unusual.

My friends think I have quite a charmed life in that things come to me easily if that makes sense. I suppose they do but I have had difficulties. I'm quite personable & I guess that has made people/teachers/employers respond well to me.

From the outside yes but mentally it’s been uphill 😆

Not charmed but good. Diagnosed with cancer at 27 BUT was treatable. Met my husband at 32, married at 36 had baby at 38, which because of the chemo I never thought I’d have! I’m able to work part time at a job I love with great hours. House will be paid off soon. Put ds fully through University (US) so he has no loans. My aunt told me once I’d had a hard life (lost my parents early) but honestly I’ve had a good life.

Sorry to hear about your bereavement @Inspoporn.

One thing I'm fully aware of is I was lucky to be born into a bit of privilege so when things did go wrong or I didn't try as hard as I should I had a safety net.

Yes, charmed beyond belief. I am exceptionally grateful and never take it for granted 😚🙏

Ahh OP it's lovely to enjoy others' fortune, what a nice person you must be
I won the life lottery with my amazing parents and I'm thankful for them every day even though we lost my dad a few years ago.
I had a horrible break up in my early 30s which ended being the best thing that ever happened to me, I met my future DH a couple of years later and snuck in some lovely daughters just before I turned 40.

From the outside I don’t have a charmed life- shit childhood, financially vulnerable and have a child with disabilities
BUT
i tend to focus on what I do have so I feel very very fortunate- a secure home, enough money to feed us, beautiful healthy kids, healthy relationships and friendships and a job I love. I am grateful to laugh every day. I think my shit childhood and struggles makes me appreciate the blessings life has offered and it feels like a beautiful life

From the outside it looks like it's been easy, I'd actually say I've worked really hard to make it all look effortless, if that makes sense. On the whole we are doing really well now. But most people looking at us wouldnt know that I have been repeatedly raped by an ex, I've had a very serious overdose when i was at school, we went through redundancy when we had small kids which ruined us financially. Takes the shine of the charmed life.

That's the thing though, everyone's biggest problem is huge for them. They may well not realise they have led a charmed life up to now. Sorry for your troubles OP and PPs 💐

No but I would say I was lucky to meet dh at 19 and never have to go through heartbreak and were still together in our 40s with 2 kids.

I have a friend who would tell you she's led a charmed life. Is in her early 60s. Parents still alive and well just needing online banking help etc and a gardener otherwise independent. One marriage. Very happy. Has never experienced heartbreak because this was her first relationship. Two healthy children. Loves her job. She recently said her dog dying was the worst thing that had ever happened to her and she was extremely grateful for that.

I haven't lead a charmed life but I did have a happy childhood and have a lovely family background and I think that makes for a charming and lucky life, even if shit happens along the way. I can't imagine having done this without family love and support.

I've had a charmed life. Loving parents. Love my siblings. School a breeze. University fun. Met the love of my life at 20. Been together 15 years. Healthy kids. 3 grandparents still alive. My mum still has both her parents alive and she's 72! Can't complain

I’m sorry about the cancer, my dad died 15years ago and it still cuts. Him and my mum were fab with us, we got all the attention in the world- reading, board game nights weekly, library Saturdays, Sunday mornings hiking. We had a basketball hoop stuck to the wall in our tiny garden and now I laugh thinking our neighbour was a legend for not hating us! Worked at a stables in rerun for rides … In adulthood blessed, 4great kids and a great husband, lucky with friends. Don’t see my family enough but I’m working on visiting them more (sister lives really far away, brother very busy in work).

I wouldn't say I've led a charmed life exactly, more ordinary, average. But I'm content and quite happy with my life . Financially, we've done well because even though we don't earn a huge amount, we've not upgraded from the small house we bought cheaply in the early 90s, leaving us able to spend money on holidays or days out and looking forward to taking early retirement in the next few months .

I wouldn't exactly say charmed as I've encountered a fair amount of family, relationship and workplace problems and some moderately severe mental health issues. Also going through a really bad patch in my marriage. BUT I have a warm, close knit family whose company I genuinely enjoy, and most of them live nearby. I also feel like I've had opportunities that women even just a generation or two ago could never have dreamed of - I've got two degrees from top unis (although I massively struggled with my course at undergrad), still close friends with uni mates 20 years later. Grew up in a financially stable home (admittedly with one alcoholic parent which was obviously not ideal) and got help from parents with deposit for my flat. Lived and worked in 3 different counties. By the grace of God I have a healthy toddler son. I have a mortgage and an intellectually stimulating job. No exaggeration I think to myself each and every day how fortunate I am.

I had a pretty happy childhood. I adore my mum (dad gone).. She truly loves me and my DC unconditionally. So did my dad when alive. That helps a great deal.

My childhood was ridiculously charmed , I was unaware how lucky I was of course. Good parents, averagely annoying siblings (), huge lovely house filled with books, a big sunny garden, pony riding lessons and music lessons, lovely holidays and I was very academic so breezed through school. My teen years I had great friends, school still easy and my parents were fab and let us have house parties but ensured they never got out of control.

Then my whole world was blown apart by a phone call when I was 19. I've been battling with the aftermath my whole adult life.

Charmed as my childhood was it also totally didn't prepare me for the adult world. And while I would give almost anything to erase all the tragedy, it did make me a much nicer person I think who was aware of the battles others might be fighting.

But yeah, my childhood and teenage years were amazing

I always feel like luck fell on my side, a bit like I was blessed because most outcomes are 50:50 and the majority of mine have come out the way I wished.

Im married to a wonderful chap, we have healthy children, the house is owned outright in a family business we are partners in, I have a successful career, our family live a wholesome life in space and peace of the countryside.

But I think I focus on the quality of life we have to pull my husband through the volatility of life as a farmer, there is a cloud over me constantly that this shitty industry might one day get the better of his mental health.

My children are happy and healthy and I feel like I’ve won the lottery of life to have them, but they were hard won and there was a lot of miscarriage and heartbreak to get where I am - but they’re here now and that is my charmed life.

We could have a lot more materially but I think for the bits that matter, my life is golden.

No. Abandoned by my parents at age three, brought up by an elderly grandmother with two siblings so was dirt poor.

Left my country aged 22 with a nothing more than a change of clothes to try to make my way in a foreign country where I knew no-one.

Still, we all have our problems.

Very envious of all these stories.
Me? Not even 40 but single, no kids, estranged from one half of my family, 2 chronic diseases, no friends and unattractive. I have had to work extra hard to pass exams as have never been naturally bright. Nothing has come easy and I have never experienced any form of luck.

Yea I do, but I don’t take it for granted. Lovely stable home growing up in the country, went to uni had great fun, met dh a few years later, he’s a great husband, we decided to have 3 kids very close together, I was able to take a few years off work and I used the time to retrain and as a result the kids are older now and I’m working a lovely family friendly job I adore, term time. parents still alive and well, siblings who all get on. I’m very blessed. I’ve never experienced any major trauma, but I count my blessings every single day and I know life can change in the blink of an eye so I just enjoy each day.

I'm not sure I'm as charmed as your definition, but despite some pretty big setbacks, I feel lucky.

Was born poor to a disabled mother and mostly absent father, but they were smart and very focussed on education, so I got into the equivalent of a grammar, was the first in my school to go to a prestigious uni, got a graduate job in a well-paid profession, got married to someone in a similar profession, had healthy and bright kids, work in a job that has good maternity leave and was enough pay for a nanny and a cleaner, sporty, size 10, close to my family and have more good friends than I did when I was young. Husband left, but remains a committed coparent and gives me time to spend on myself too.

It's had it's hard moments. An illness as a teenager left me with a lifelong physical disability that shortens life expectancy and affects my day to day activities, my 'D'H realised during the first covid lockdown that family life was difficult and moved out leaving me alone with the kids, because we're co-parenting I'm stuck in an area that's both expensive and far from my family, and I am often absolutely exhausted by the end of the day. But I truly feel incredibly lucky, and I think it comes down to relationships, with my family and friends, and maybe just how we're born. My sister says she hates the 'Pollyanna shit' and that I'm allowed to be sad, but I'm not pretending to be happy about things, nor pointing out how we're all lucky because we don't live in war or famine, and I do get angry, frustrated and sad at times, but tend to quickly bounce back to being contented, especially if I can hang out with my kids and a book and then eat a dinner that I didn't have to cook.