To not have made friends?

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I recently completed a four year qualification in a caring profession that attracts a lot of women. I am in my mid 40s, as were much of my class. Before the course, I anticipated a social element, and kinda assumed I would find my tribe and maybe make a new group of friends. However, this hasn't happened, and when I told someone this earlier today she said "that's very unusual". So obviously now I am worried!
I do have friends - a smallish grouo of them - and am friendly, warm, funny, all of that, albeit a bit socially awkward until I am comfortable. But I know other groups formed in the class and can't quite shake the feeling that there is something amiss with me that this didn't happen for me. What thinkest thee??

If most of the group are in their mid 40s, I imagine as mature adults they have other responsibilities too and are already in well-established friendship groups? All groups tend to need the one person who organises - maybe 'that' person wasn't in your cohort? Don't let somebody's passing thoughts make you imagine there's something 'amiss' with you - the desire/chemistry/time/need/dynamic probably wasn't there within your particular group. Try not to overthink it, shake it off and move on.

Hi OP - I can relate very much to this - and I've been thinking about it recently actually.

On Friday 4th December 2009
I left a job after having worked there just over 7 months. Just after I was walked out of the building on my final day by one of the line managers I got out on the street and cried - and I cried precisely because I'd been at the job 7 months and made 0 friends !! So it felt like another 7 months of my life wasted.

The thing is in my case one of the reasons why I chose to leave the job in the first place is because I felt I didn't have good relationships with my colleagues although this was not by any means the main reason - it was part of a bigger picture.

I was actually lucky as I had enough savings to take some time off work and didn't need a job straightaway.

However, during the first week in March 2010 life improved beyond anything I could ever imagine. I'd made a decision to leave work and go on a part time course new doors unexpectedly opened where I actually got back in touch with friends I'd previously lost touch with and I rekindled some really valuable relationships. Actually more important relationships than new colleague type friends would've been.

I know your circs aren't exactly identical to mine OP but I can relate to some of the emotions involved