Snoring

[Strawberryfieldsforeverrr]

How much is reasonable for a snorer to do about their snoring?

DH snores like a pig, we sleep in separate rooms. He won't do anything about this snoring, other than wearing a nasal strip if we go on holiday, which is completely ineffective.

I have now said I won't share a room again on holiday as I sit awake all night fuming, so it's seperate rooms or nothing. This makes holidays very expensive/ unaffordable. We can't stay with relatives etc when invited as they don't have enough space.

DH would say I'm completely unreasonable and should just soldier. I think that unless he's tried everything the onus isn't on me to just put up with it.

What's reasonable?

He needs to do something about it, or accept your stipulations re the holidays. Or sit up all night himself so that your aren’t kept awake.

Its totally unacceptable to expect you to put up with that sort of disturbance to your sleep when it’s in his gift to seek medical help.

Ask him to see his GP he may have sleep apnoea they can arrange for further studies as he may require a CPAP mask. It does make a noise but better than the snoring.
I feel your pain OP.

My husband snores dreadfully. For years it was a huge issue and he wouldn't really do anything about it. I got some loop earplugs. They are amazing!

He should at the very least go and see the GP to rule out sleep apnoea. My DH is an awful snorer too but has been cleared for sleep apnoea, he isn't overweight, he uses a nasal spray and throat spray that the GP gave him but frankly they're useless. I've accepted that he's done what he can and I wear ear plugs which dulls the noise slightly! You have my sympathies, I've spent many a night seething at my lack of sleep!

Currently sat listening to DH snore while DC nap so believe me I feel your pain.

My breaking point came last holiday when I listened to him snore for 8 hours without a break. He's been to a maxofacial surgeon and is going to be fitted with a custom made gum shield. Beware, as others have described you have to go down the diagnosis route, appt after appt so he does need to be on board, it's taken us a full calendar year now and only just about to get the imprint for it to be made on our return.

Like you we sleep in separate rooms at home and are lucky enough on holiday to have a back annexe for me and DC to sleep.

Our persuasion discussions went along the lines of sleep deprivation being a torture tactic and you don't do that to someone you purport to love without exploring every avenue. I have also, am guessing much like you, recorded him so that he could hear himself. Good luck OP

He needs to sort it out or else sleep on the couch when visiting relatives etc. Have you tried using earplugs when on holiday?