Abusive language

[LDA123]

Bit of background - married for 13 years, currently going through divorce. Ex frequently uses foul language when texting (we don’t see each other / speak on phone) e.g. F off, dckhead, kob, a couple of times c*t, things like “you’re a terrible person” “you’re an awful human being”, “get off your lazy ase” Etc etc. You get the gist. I never swear at him and try to remain polite.

AIBU - Divorce is a tense time where emotions are high, inevitably people will get upset and say horrible things.

YANBU - There is no excuse for this type of language. Ever.

I feel that as it’s been going on for so long, I’ve lost sight of what is normal and what is not.

He sounds nasty; limit your contact to the solicitor if you can

Unfortunately, I no longer have a solicitor (cannot afford it). I intend to litigate in person at court.

Just tell him to quit the abuse because being arrested for abuse won’t look good when the case hits court.

You've got it all in writing so present at court.

I wasn’t sure if court will accept screen shots of text messages as evidence but will definitely look into it.

Hi @LDA123
YANBU, there's no excuse for that type of language.
Sorry you're having to go through this. You're doing great, keeping your cool and not swearing like him xx

The court will accept screenshots add them to your statement or position statement. Is the dispute about property or children. Send another message I think we can be respectful and polite to each other and will be showing any abusive messages to the court.

Try to cut down on messages generally only reply if you have to. Then see what happens.At least you know divorce is the right decision.

Do you have kids? If so ignore everything, and I mean everything apart from limited communication on logistics about them. If not stop communicating.

We have 4 children yes and he is demanding 50/50 custody so unfortunately no choice but to have contact regarding them. I have told him multiple times I will not discuss finances.