Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To dislike school's attendance competition

105 replies

PostmanPatAlwaysRingsTwice · 12/09/2023 23:10

Our primary school's latest newsletter contains the usual lines about attendance at school being important, which it is. It then goes on to show the attendance statistics since the beginning of term, I think, for each year group. A year contains one or two classes. It's titled 'Attendance Race' and congratulates the class with the best attendance that week.

AIBU to think this is ineffective, unfair and discriminatory? In primary, it's down to the parents to get their DC to school - the children have little to no control over it. If a child is reluctant, it's up to their parent to deal with that and ask school for help if need be (I've been there). Most kids are off because they're ill. What are they expected to do about that? Others are off because their parent didn't get out of bed to take them. The child can't change that. Why make the children get in a race they can't compete in?

Also, it means that children with long term conditions who are more likely to be off may be blamed for their class not winning the race - 'we're not going to be the best because X is in our class and she's off a lot with her diabetes/asthma/Crohn's disease'. Or 'why is your class the worst, Jimmy?' 'because Y is off all the time. We'll never get it because of him.' It's none of the children's business to talk about why one of their class is off. I have skin in the game here - my DD was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes this year and was off sick for a while. Sorry for losing the race for the class 😒Some children will be worried that they're ill and losing their class's position.

Children are off because of health (temp or longer term) that they can do nothing about, or because of additional needs leading to difficulties at school (that the school have a responsibility to help with), or because of difficult family situations such as being refugees/EAL, domestic abuse, mental health or addiction. Those families need support, and are not going to suddenly change because of this attendance race.

School need to focus on children who are persistently absent and work effectively and sensitively with families to support them to get their children into school. Not do this.

AIBU?

OP posts:
lapsedbookworm · 15/09/2023 19:04

FootprintsOnTheCeiling · 15/09/2023 17:56

My children had excellent attendance, they weren’t poor kids sent in no matter what to get out of the way and they never went in if they were contagious. They were in school because they were well enough to go. My DDs school phoned me one time to pick her up because she told them she was unwell. It was very evident within half an hour that there was nothing wrong with her and if it had been the morning I’d have taken her back after lunch. I read her the riot act about basically skiving from school. She told me she did it because her friends did it all the time. My children have been very fortunate that they very rarely are unwell, myself and DH are the same, I haven’t been off poorly since 2021 and before that 2017, I’m just not susceptible to coughs and colds. But as far as school attendance goes it’s not the child’s fault if they’re poorly but likewise it’s not their fault if they’re well either and if the school reward attendance in a way other than a certificate then as parents we need to be telling the head, governors, PFTA or whoever arranges prize day to save their money for something else.

I appreciate there are children who are just fortunate not to get ill often

But equally there are children like DSC whose mum sends them in when they are clearly ill and contagious just because she is fixated on 100% attendance awards (I suspect undiagnosed autism). .

toddlermom99 · 15/09/2023 19:44

Completely agree. My little boy is an amputee and will never, ever have full attendance!

Sirzy · 15/09/2023 19:45

The thing is for the children who are fortunate enough to never get ill that in itself is the reward. They don’t have to miss school and they don’t have to cope with the many challenges that come with illness especially chronic illness.

fernfriend · 15/09/2023 19:50

This reply has been withdrawn

This message has been withdrawn at the poster's request

Tessa92 · 01/12/2023 10:19

This all came in 20 plus years ago while I was teaching in primary school. At the end of term the children with 0 absences got a certificate in assembly. Utterly ridiculous- encouraging children to come in and spread their germs when ill and penalising those whose parents couldn’t /wouldn’t get out of bed to bring them. Makes a bit more sense for kids in Secondary schools who might be tempted to truant but I doubt that it works to any great extent.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread