Mumsnet affair hypocrisy

[WonderLandfan]

Anyone else notice how when a woman posts about her DH cheating, he is the scum of the earth and should be left immediately;

When a woman posts she is the Cheater, she is just going through a rough time and the responses are much softer... especially if the poster reveals how awful her current parent is to justify the cheating.

The majority of threads I've knowingly seen are definitely the unfaithful woman being torn to shreds and being told she deserves to lose everything. It's a definite sway that way for both sexes.

No.

@deathbyfluffy structural inequality. Holding the less powerful to higher standards than the powerful. Whose purpose are you serving here?

What does structural inequality have to do with shagging around with people who aren't your spouse? We're not using the sexism trump card again

It's almost like mumsnet is made up of millions of individuals who comment on different topics and in different ways...🤔

TBH the pattern I see is that a handful of excuse-makers show up on every thread where the OP is cheating and tell her it's understandable and just to keep quiet (these are probably people who've cheated in the past) and then all hell breaks loose and the OP and her supporters get a massive dressing-down from everyone else.

There are definitely a lot more sympathetic posts in threads where a woman has cheated, that's without question. But, thankfully, the OPs generally get their arses handed to them by the majority.

YANBU

I stopped coming on MN for a while because the obvious differences in advice for men vs women was too annoying.

There was a thread about a women having sex and posters were saying that it’s her DH’s fault as he must not be meeting her needs and she’s got nothing to feel bad about etc.
Whereas a man gave his female colleague a lift home and he was called every name under the sun.

But it’s not just affairs.

I’ve read literally the opposite advice/reactions for inheritance (if it’s his it’s family money if it’s hers it’s just her money), working PT, not being able to drive, spending lots of time with their mum, spending large amounts of money etc - if it’s the man doing it it’s the worst thing in the world, if it’s the woman doing it then it’s absolutely fine.

I’ve also read at least 3 threads where a woman has physically hit their DH with no provocation and still posters were falling over themselves to defend her and somehow blame the DH.

2 in particular come to mind.

1 when they were arguing and she slapped him whilst he was washing his hands, so then he splashed her with water and walked out and then she pushed and slapped him again - so many replies were saying how he assaulted her by splashing her with water, even though she hit him first. And saying things like well he shouldn’t have walked away from you when you were trying to talk to him so he deserves it etc.

The other was when a woman was drunk and she kept wanting to snog her DH at the pub/restaurant and he kept saying no, so she punched him and went off crying - and the replies were ridiculous, saying him not kissing her was abuse and that he should have gone running after her etc.

I don’t know why OPs put the sex of each person.
They know full well if the person is female then most posters will automatically side with them and if they’re male they’ll be against him.

If you want true, unbiased opinions then the only way to do it is by not saying the sex.