Hear me out...

[Somethingweirdisgoingon]

I've no real idea on how to articulate this, but hopefully it'll "click" for some of you and you'll know what I mean, at least that's my plan.

Does anyone else feel like everything is happening all at once? The past 2-3 years feel like a violent blur of "one thing after another". I've never know a period like it in my life and pushing 40. Not to have a pity party about it but Jesus, I'd really like a break now?

Also, my capacity to deal with it all seems massively diminished. I can't pinpoint when or why this happened, but I feel like I've almost tapped out on life and said "ok, so this is what's happening now then? Fine". But it's not fine, I feel beyond burned out, totally riddled with anxieties and worries that I can't pinpoint. I don't even feel like I connect with anyone anymore, I'm too exhausted to reach out and ask who else feels this way, until now... and because you know, this is anonymous and if I sound like a lunatic at least I can disappear back into my cave.

Essentially, this is brief list of how it feels:

Always seems to be a new problem appear just as you solve the previous one

Totally exhausted to the point of feeling numbed to it

A sense everything and everyone has gone a bit weird

Can't get a grasp on what life used to be like, can't get comfortable with what it's like now either

Feels like you're never "present" just doing what needs to be done to keep the show going

And more I can't really explain. Seems like the worlds gone a bit weird but also my own life, and when I do manage to have chats with friends they seem to be in a similar place, always something happening, but I don't have the capacity to enquire because my own life is a shit show.

If any of that makes sense, please tell me I'm not alone 😫

(Caveat, I do have a history of on and off depression but I'm very used to / comfortable with that and this doesn't feel at all the same, although I see some cross-over points)

That is just life isn't it? A series of happenings and then you die!

This made me laugh out, and I don't disagree! You're right, it absolutely is.

However, lately it just feels like all the series of events are bizarre and coming quicker and quicker?

I wish I was better at explaining it.

All right mate, keep it light

The older you get the faster time seems to go so that's probably why. If you think of your childhood it was an eternity from one Christmas to the next but now it flies by.

I feel similar OP. Could it be peri? I think that’s what it might be for me. Hope things get better for you soon

I'm a realist @ManateeFair

I think once you know what a decade 'feels like' (you know what i mean?) because you've done a couple of them as an adult, everything does seem to start to move faster and faster.

And it's scary because we count our lives in decades really.

A year is a blink of an eye!
5 years - not much more in the scheme of things unless you really put your mind to getting things done and making the changes in your life which you've planned.

Yes to christmas's feeling closer and closer together. It feels like they come around once every 4 or 5 months in my head 😳

I didn’t used to feel like that, occasionally there was a Big Thing that happened in life, then things became the usual little bumps until the next Big Thing. Then the last 12 months happened and my goodness I just want to get off the rollercoaster now please…

Definitely had similar a few years of one miserable event after another. Kept thinking this will pass and it did but so many years on I was completely fucked.

if you can take a holiday and completely rest in different surroundings, take one. Even a weekend away is better than nothing.

failing that make time to rest and recharge your first priority.

long periods of continuous stress take a huge toll that only those who’ve experienced can appreciate.

rest and make time for enjoyable stuff before it totally knackers you

I’m currently questioning all my friendships and relationships! Must be Peri

Yes mine started when I was 37. 8 years ago. In the past 8 years I ve -
Cared for a grandparent on end of life
Lost 2 grandads
Cared for terminally ill parent
Lost that parent
Had a child with significant health issues
Had a breakdown
Supported dh with mh issues
Has a serious house fire (no one hurt but had to live in temp accommodation for a year
Caring for other parent
Caring for disabled child
Received my own asd diagnosis
And of course lockdown

It's never ending. I think it's a combination of statistically being an age where my elders are dying. Knock on effect. Ie poor mh due to life circumstances. Cost of living, less money to do enjoyable things to offset the struggle.

I feel like this. I wonder if things were uncomplicated in our life for a while and now they’re complicated it’s harder to deal with. Work was going along nicely for us and that’s been our tipping point. I spent last year with my job under consultation and the team became toxic and dog eat dog. I’m out of that but now dh is going through the same with months ahead. Adding in house and family stuff is then becoming too much. Dc all bed optician appointments, dd1 unwell and needs doctor to investigate and all the school messages need to be kept on top of. We ran out of milk this morning. I never usually let that happen!

I should say, I’m 41 and looking forward to retirement 😩

I think as we age we also become more capable and experienced so tend to take on more responsibilities simply because we know what to do.

But we often overlook how much cumulative time and energy doing lots of things requires.

I would do a bit of an audit of all the activities you take on (including/especially the little things). Then take a long hard look at how much is essential and what things you get pleasure out of doing. Then strip out the rest. Capable people often get given/landed with more than their fair share. But you can say no. You’ll find having more time to devote to the stuff that’s important to you will help you feel less pressured.

It s the peri-menopause my dear.

welcome! You ll see it’s shit and can last 10yrs + but rake HRT if you can, and this too shall past 😜

i found it s a time for girlfriends nightout, week ends, walks, whatever floats your boat but it s a time fir sisterhood. For me it is the only way to survive!

good luck!