Without getting into any of the many reasons, my 25 year marriage is dead. I can't take it any more. I want out.
But we live in a place with a terrible housing crisis. We have three children, one with SN. We live in Social Housing rental. There's nowhere for him to go, there's nowhere for me to go. We both earn reasonable money, but not close to enough to rent another property, on the open market, even if there were anything available, which there is not. I have no family in this country, his elderly parents are three hours away. He can't go there and keep his job and see his children, and they wouldn't want him anyway, he's 51 years old. If I tried to rent, even if there were any houses, it would cost everything I earn in a month just on rent. It's not possible
If we were together, we can have a nice home and provide for our children and look after them properly and have enough money for holidays and birthday presents etc. But apart, we'd both be penniless, even if we could find somewhere for him or me to live, which we can't.
What am I supposed to do? Live like this forever, trapped and unable to choose? It's bad enough that my marriage is dead, I'm heartsick over it, but this limbo is even worse.
AIBU to think that sometimes there are no options? Sometimes you can't just LTB, or have him leave you?