A good friend has invited DD (3) to her daughter’s birthday party (4th birthday).
DD is painfully shy, can’t handle noise, often asks for her ear defenders even if not excessive noise). She won’t speak to anyone and won’t even look at anyone or acknowledge anyone. If there was just one girl there there would be a chance DD would interact and play after an hour or so but not with other kids there.
DD will want to play with me alone in a corner somewhere. The last party I took her to she disappeared into an empty room and played in there alone. At another party she wanted me and her to sit in the car and play there alone away from the noise.
I know she has to learn to interact but I’m not sure taking her to this party will benefit anyone. She’s likely to go completely non verbal, won’t eat anything and will keep trying to look for somewhere quiet she can go.
YABU - take her to the party, she has to learn to socialise
YANBU - don’t take her, it will benefit nobody