Started a new job last month and I'm overwhelmed

[Tobytea]

I don't know what I should be doing and my mentor is very distant.
They have thrown me in at the deep end.
I feel so anxious about everything and take this worry home.
How can I ease this feeling?

Reach out to colleagues in your team?

I have but they're so busy and not very helpful

Deep breath.
Make yourself a dashboard.
1 piece of landscape a4
Everything that's going on - try and put it under relevant headings.
Plan out when you'll do it. What's coming up.
Show it to boss and ask for input.

Thank you I need to get the feeling of anxiety down for when I'm not at work
It's been difficult to find a way

I always feel like this when I start a new job. It might take a few more weeks to get your head around it all. Be kind to yourself and if people aren't getting back to you find a way to escalate your concerns.

I feel like this every time I start a new job. It always improves after about a month without fail! Sometimes I don't even notice the feeling going away it's just that you get used to what you're doing, you start to understand what is priority and what isn't, things take less time..:: it's horrible at the start but it should get better!

It is normal and I have been in the same situation - it will pass.

What I have realised though, is that it is not acceptable. I am a manager of a global team now and when I retrospectively look back on those experiences I had where I felt the way you do now - I am annoyed with myself for not standing up and raising my hand more. I would never allow any of my new delegates to feel that way or leave them unsupported.

Yes. They are all busy - but you were hired and surely they will see by given the investment into helping get you up to speed then that will allow you to pick up some of the work load. Don't be afraid to say to your manager that you expect more support than you are getting - and if they are unwilling to offer that then you should reconsider whether this is really an employer that is going to care for you.

Yes I'm just going to keep at it and learn everything I can
It's horrible and I left my last job for same reason
What would you consider as a manager a reasonable timeframe for escalation this

I hope it does the overthinking is killing my confidence

Trying to take my own advice if this was a friend I'd tell them to keep asking questions and keep trying things even to fail

How was your day @Tobytea ?

Have you raised this to your manager yet? You need to make it clear you are not getting the level of support you need

I am a year in and still overwhelmed so I’ve decided it just takes a few years to become part of the furniture. And probably longer the older you get.
I like to just think at the end of each day I banked some more money and a bit into my pension. Every day won’t be perfect, 60% is enough. Eventually you’ll be flying

Anxiety is awful isn’t it. Couldn’t written this. While back.
a year into job now and it’s a lot better (I’m not losing sleep and overthinking everything). Had low intensity therapy at one point and it was basically this course. The categorising worries- around p22 really really helped x
https://mindinbexley.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/WORRY-GROUP-HANDBOOK.pdf