To think other parent should drop DD off at school?

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Parent 1 has DD approx 70% of the time, parent 2 has DD approx 30%.

P2 has DD 3 school nights in a fortnight which means transport to school is required the next morning.

P1s Dad has agreed to meet P2 halfway on one of the school days, to get DD to school (25 min journey between P1 and P2s house).

P2 thinks P1 should drive to P2’s house for the other two school days in the fortnight to then drop DD at school (near P1s house). P1 does all of the other school drop offs and pick ups as DD is primarily at P1’s house.

Should P2 drop DD off at school on the mornings she is at their house?
Or does this responsibility belong to P1?

Both P’s work and have commitments.

I can’t keep track of what P1 and P2 are each doing here but the parent whose house she’s at should take her to school that morning, obviously. It’s not rocket science. Not sure why P1 or P2’s dad needs to be involved either.

You're only being unreasonable because that was so hard to follow. But once I worked it out - your ex is a lazy ass and is responsible for taking his child to school on the days he has her.

To make it less complicated, get your dad to rescind his offer of help - it seems to have made your ex feel entitled.

Why does P2 think it’s up to P1 to do that?

Yeah your Dad should be busy some days and make it so your ex should do the school run on his days.

Will he though?

Because there is often a large gap between what people should do and what they actually do.

Whoever has her drops her at school

P2 is wrong. It's up to P2 to get their child to school/pay for breakfast club, on their mornings.

This exactly

Very confusing. If parent has her overnight they should drop her at school unless there is a really good reason why she needs to go home in am.

Your lazy ex is responsible for taking her to school when she has slept at his.

Why the complex P1 ans P2 rubbish? Why not just say him and I?

No idea love, your p2 and p1 rubbish is annoying

Even if you did mum and dad it would be better

Obviously P2 is responsible for school transport on their days. What sort of idiot are they? Why do they think that’s not their job?

The kid is staying there the night before so they have to get her to school, even if that means arranging taxis or paying for breakfast club if they need to get to work, just like every other parent.

And why has P1’s dad agreed to do it on one of the days? Why help out with the half assed parenting?

You're not being unreasonable. Just refuse to do it. It's his responsibility when DC is at his house

P2 clearly views it as being other people's job to facilitate their parenting. Even when those people aren't actually the child's parents.

I wonder what gender P2 could be, to have got the message that it's societally acceptable to offload their child onto someone else? 🤔

Why doesn't someone suggest to P2 that they message the class WhatsApp group and ask if one of the school mums can take their child to school? After all, all children are the responsibility of all women before they're the responsibility of their male parent.