AIBU to say I don't want this "helper" in my house?

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I have a small renovation job being done in my house at the moment and we are living in it while it's being done.

She haven't had any issues until today. The joiner has come back to finish the floor. He's a brilliant worker and I'm so pleased with his work. However, today he has brought a helper with him. A man in his 40's/50's. He is a very loud sweary man. When he arrived he asked for a coffee and threw a pack of sweeteners on the counter. He has broken the light fitting in the room they are working in and asked me to come in and clean it up! Sam the joiner was at least mortified and cleaned it himself. He apologised on his helper behalf. Helper has been sitting on our front wall smoking and on the phone fighting with someone since 10:10am. (It's 1045 now) He is shouting and swearing loudly. I live in a quiet cul de sac and I'm so embarrassed.

AIBU to tell Sam to send him away. I don't want him here.

Yes I would definitely speak to Sam and say this. Everything you’ve mentioned about him is totally unacceptable.

YANBU

YANBU

I imagine Sam will be glad to see the back of him too!

I would have asked him to leave within 5 minutes of him arriving tbh.

Definitely YANBU.

I would definitely speak to Sam. Point out how pleased you are with him/the work too. From your post it’s hard to say how this helper is helping? He’s broken things (this making the job take longer) and he’s outside on his phone when presumably Sam is working inside, so it’s not like they are both have a break.

YANBU. Be lovely to Sam but also say “I don’t want this man in my house again.”

Its a deal breaker.

I fail to see how he’s in any way helping!
yes, ask that Sam please completes the job himself. Say how pleased you are with the work Sam has done, but that you really don’t want the extremely loud and rude “helper” back in your house.

I think you should talk to the joiner, but be prepared that he might have already known this bloke was a giant twat and that the joiner's possibly brought him along because he hasn't got anyone else to help with that one part of the job that needs more than one pair of strong hands. You might have to grit your teeth and put up with him to get the job done, or find another joiner, if this was the only joiner's mate he could find.

Presumably though the joiner wouldn't have brought him unless needed?
Something he has to do today must require two people so if you want him to leave then be prepared for a delay and potentially an increase in the bill as your joiner will need to schedule another day with someone else.

By all means talk to the joiner and find out if it's just a one off but I think demanding he leaves is probably short sighted.

God I'm just imaging the language our builder would have used if one of his guys had behaved like that. Not unreasonable at all, and Sam probably thinking similarly.

Quick update.
I spoke to Sam. His helper is some friend of his business partner who was supposed to be on the job with Sam today but sent this aul lad instead. I asked nicely if Sam could send him home as I was unhappy about him being in the house.
Poor wee Sam was mortified and has sent Helper to some warehouse to collect things for their next job tomorrow. I've offered to pay more if he has to work late. He refused that offer and again apologised. Horrible man left and said he would be back around 4 so Sam said he would send him home at that point.

Horrible horrible man. Lovely lovely Sam.

Well done for speaking up, op. Not easy when you have horrible people in the house!