I have 2 DC with my exH of 3 years DD14 and DS12, things have not been very amicable between us. My exH is a firefighter and works shifts, he has DC for 2 nights every 6 days around his shift pattern, he has dictated this and the drop off time of 7pm. He also has them for tea one night in between.
My question is how involved do I need to be with contact drop off/pick ups? The current arrangement and times don't really work for me but he refuses to even consider changing them and therefore has ended up doing all the pick ups and drop offs. DS12 has now started high school and is in a different high school to DD14 which has become inconvenient for him so he is now saying I need to pick up at 7pm. My view is that if we are sharing the pick up's/drop off then it needs to work for both of us and the times agreed should be mutually convenient not what he dictates to me.
While they have been off during the 6 weeks holiday he has cancelled having them last minute on 3 of the occasions he was supposed to leaving me to have to sort them out last minute so I could go to work or I have had to cancel plans. I have tried various times in the past to have discussions with him about arrangements but he just wont engage so I am now at the point where I just think if you want to see your kids then come and get them or don't, its up to you.
How much longer do I need to be involved with his contact and transport with the kids? Would I be unreasonable telling him to put them on the train home if he wont drop them off and wont change the time?