Mixed sleepover

[makemineamargarita1]

My ex H took my ds (16) and ds (12) to his gf and her dd (9) slept in the same room as them. Ds (12) wasn’t very comfortable about this. She has her own room and ds both sleep together in the spare room.

AIBU when I think this inappropriate?

It seems like the little girl was probably excited and wanted to see it as a sleep over. Her mum may have suggested it as that to make things a little less complicated.

Its definitely weird though, especially the age gap with at 16 year old and a 9 year old. Is this a one time thing or has it happened before?

If it was a one time thing then I’d maybe leave it for now but encourage your sons to tell their dad if it happens again and they feel uncomfortable. I would also chase it up if it happened again.

If this is a regular thing then talk to the ex and tell him your children feel u for table and don’t want to tell him. It might end up with them refusing to go and spend time with their dad which no one wants.

I’d agree to leave it if it’s a one off, but I wouldn’t let it happen again.