Partner telling our families about our relationship

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Advice please because in going round the bend.

My partner has been talking about our relationship, money sex everything to both our families.

Im so hurt and embarrassed that he's talking about very personal and intimate things in this way.

I'm good with money and spend carefully to make sure kids and bills are paid first. He's blown money and would do still although not as bad.

In the bedroom I have had multiple gynecology difficulties and surgeries it's not something I want discussing with anyone especially our family members!!!

Please help

Then tell him this, I’m imagine he’s spoken to others as he needs an outlet. I don’t think he’s done it intentionally to hurt you.

Just explain to him that there are certain things you’d like to keep private, especially intimate details and you’d rather your families didn’t know about them .

Have you tried asking him not to? I can understand that he might need to stop a third party to help him process what sounds like very difficult times, but maybe he could talk to the Samaritans rather than family members.

I think you need to have a frank discussion with him and explain that you regard these matters as private and not to be discussed with other family members.

If you don't like it, that's you're prerogative. Tell him you don't like it and ask him to stop. If he doesn't then decide if you're willing to stay.....

Personally it would depend what my DH was saying as to whether I had an issue or not. You first said he was talking about money and sex.....then towards end of your post it sounds more like he's saying you're more careful/sensible with money than him and that you've had gynae surgery.

Personally neither of those things would bother me and I wouldn't class him as discussing our sex lives. Maybe needs more context tho

I’d be getting shot of him

Thank you yes I have told him and you're right it's no intention of hurting me but it has

The money thing is that he'll share finance savings etc but that's not too bothersome.

The surgeries our families know about as they all kindly helped with childcare.

The hurtful part is discussing our intimate relationship with these family

Personally I think that if he needs support it's unreasonable to stop him talking to his family. Talking to your family about its weird. Also I am confused about how you know he has talked to them? I think it's ok for him to talk to his family to seek support if he needs support or advice but if it's something that will embarrass you I don't understand why you also need to know he has seeked support like this.

Would he go to therapy? It sounds like he has a need to talk and a therapist would be better.

I couldn't live like that.

Do you have children together?

Hi , I actually think it's reasonable for him to talk within his own circle whether it's his friends or family.

It's hurt that he's gone to mine and one person eventually told me on my side

Yes three children